I wasn't saying that the iphone was given to this person by work. I was only mentioning that we don't know everyone's situation and yes, some companies do pay for part of the phone bill and it doesn't have to be a blackberry as my last company paid for part of my phone bill.

I totally agree with you that you shouldn't have to barter your fee.
Times are tough and most people are living beyond their means as most of my friends have more than one in childcare and it breaks the bank. Does that mean that we should lower our rates ~ NO as we work hard in our jobs and worth every penny. Having said that I agree with Sarah that everyone is sounding a little harsh as everyone's situation is different. Yes, there are some out there who would put more value on the material things. There are so many people that live beyond their means and if they changed some of their lifestyle then child care might be more affordable. It's a juggling act for many as their monthly bills are credit. In a perfect world.....