Try just giving her half the normal amount in the bottle and maybe she will not be so wet when you get her up and also try putting a plastic pant over the diaper to hold any leaks.... Sounds like way too much aggravation if you can fill the spot right away and they are not all like this ... I just started a 9 1/2 month old on feb 21 and she is (mostly) amazing. So maybe it's time to move on.