Transition time - how much is too much?

[Sandbox Sally]

In the past, I've had either NO transition time asked for, or maybe mom coming in for an hour ONE DAY, then leaving.

I have a mom who interviewed this week for, signed on for 3 days a week ,and mentioned coming by with him this coming Monday. Ok great. I said, yes, come by, we'll have coffee and he can play with the other dck's. Just got off the phone with her only to discover she meant he is to start daycare this Monday, and that she was coming with him EVERY day next week! Are you kidding me??

I am not comfortable with this at all, and I told her that. I did a lot of umm and uhhing and she said, "oh, I thought we agreed." I told her it would feel strange to me, and that she could come with him on Monday, and maybe stay for an hour, and if she was uncomfortable leaving, we could play it by ear.

Her kid is 11 months old, and during the interview, he played eight feet away from her, not glancing up once during the entire 45 min meeting. He is secure. He was comfortable. This is for HER.

What do I do to get her out of here on Monday? I know Baby will be fine.