How do you end a phone call/interview that is not going well

[mamaof4]

an update... (poor kid)

She came for the interview, she was asking me questions like the normal parents do...."What's your daily routine....etc"

She sat an observed for quite awhile, but I noticed that her little one was always looking at her for approval like mommy can I touch this, can I go here, and as soon as he let out a peep and I mean a peep, she was picking up and hugging him telling him he was ok.

She would not let him engage in group play unless she was watching...It was creepy really. She also had this kid dressed in knee pads, and elbow gaurds...I was surprised he wasn't wearing a helmet for god's sake.


She went on to say that her boy does not eat any sugar or salt. That she cooks without it....yuck.....Poor kid... he's scared to even play from what I saw, what is it with some parents these days?

She then said at the end that my son seemed to really love me and that dcg was very happy and that she wanted to take a spot but needed to confer with her female partner first (yes she said that, she went out of her way to tell me that)

If anything I'd take this family because I feel sorry for the little boy. I want him to be a kid.

[mamaof4]

Update! She is an interesting person!

She did not take the spot, but now I am back to square one as far as filling goes.... Her reason? I live in a Condo and she wants hom to be able to play outside...She lets him play outside? I would have thought there would have been to many germs...OMG...All I can do is keep trying I guess.

[playfelt]

Not sure I would be too upset that she didn't take the spot. But yes I feel sorry for the child but can you imagine if he fell down and got a bump. Bet he does have to wear his helmet outside. Wonder if she was that paranoid running her daycare. Hopefully once mom goes to work and gets a bit of separation from her child that he can relax too and be a child.

[mom-in-alberta]

I think you should be relieved!!!
I am all for same sex partnerships, and healthy lifestyles... good for her. But she threw out sooooo many other warning signs. Padding, really????? It's a humorous mental picture, but in practice, I really do feel bad for this kid.
It's one thing for someone to say "I want to make sure that this transition is easiest on everyone, blah blah blah". It's another completely to barge in and expect that all of your demands will be met, no questions asked. She sounds like a horribly abrasive personality. Gee, I wonder why she doesn't do daycare herself anymore? Probably chased everyone off!!
By the way; when you first explained it, I was wondering if it was someone trying to do sneaky spying for thier own daycare. I mean, staying all day, every day for a MONTH??? Seems really fishy to me....

[Inspired by Reggio]

Blessing in disguise there - why do people WASTE other peoples times if a 'condo' was a deal breaker for her why book the INTERVIEW in the first place????

I am admittedly an interview snob but I do not allow any Tom, Dick and Harry to come for an in person interview - I do a phone interview first about the program basics to see if we are a match for those - aka the things I cannot 'change' about my program such as fees, hours of operation, location, that I do field trips and so forth and the basics of what they are 'looking for' in services to make sure that these are going to work - this women would have never been invited to my home based on her phone demeanor ... interviewing takes A LOT OF UNPAID FAMILY TIME and I am not wasting it on looky loos and people who are obviously not a match based on the gut instinct on the phone!

[dodge__driver11]

we did a phone interview, and I told her she was not a good fit-- I am the anon poster, she told me that she'd rather see me in person, and then we could decide. My husband phoned her back, and stated that he didn't think she was a good fit eithier, and she STILL WANTED TO COME.

All through the interview she made jabs at what I served etc...subtle jabs... It was the hardest hour of my life. I wanted it over, my husband finally was like so __________ we have other things to do do you need anything else? SHE KNEW I WAS IN A CONDO BEFORE SHE CAME.

[jec]

YIKES
Do you have her number to cancel the appointment. Go with your gut....she was negative from the start. If she is causing problems even before you meet with her, imagine what it will be like if her child was in your care.

[dodge__driver11]

jec she already came, but all I can say is thats pretty balsy

[jec]

jec she already came, but all I can say is thats pretty balsy

Opps sorry mystery poster. I had this open for a while before I responded and didn't read what what posted after I read the orginal post ...multi tasking this morning

I agree with Reggio, blessing in disguise! If ever you get someone this bold and rude again, just intrupt them and say I don't mean to come across as rude by intruping you however I don't feel that this is a fit. Good luck on your search.
There are just some people out there that are just miserable and you can't keep everyone happy.

[Momof4]

Yes gingerbread, you don't need the stress of this family in your life. As somebody else already mentioned, I would hate to see what would happen if this little boy had a normal trip and fall and scraped his knees and his nose and chin, you know?