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    Looking for an update ...how did 'breaking the news' go?

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    No update yet. I tried calling her, but couldn't reach her, so I emailed her the news. I told her that I was very sorry, but I am no longer able to provide care for her son, and that upon deeper reflection, I didn't feel equipped to meet his needs as well as the needs of my other daycare children who had been there longer, and to whom I must give priority.

    I tried to word it so that that onus was on me, and not anything happening as a result of anything she has done or said. Why bother getting into all that? I am hoping she takes it well. I am not a confrontation kind of person, and will be distraught if she becomes angry. I am just repeating to myself the worst case scenarios, and none of them seem all that bad as I listen to them over and over in my head.

    New girl started today. She's a sweetie. I don't regret my choice, no matter what the fallout.

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    Ditto - inquiring minds would like to know that you are ok!
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    ^^ ^^ ^^ ^^
    See above...Reggio, I think we posted at the same time!

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    Would he have been in attendance today normally - just hoping she got the email and does not 'show up' on your door stop for her next scheduled day cause I know he was supposed to be 'part time'. I have clients who do not check their email for WEEKS drives me nuts - cause that is my preferred mode of quick contact as well if I cannot get them personally at drop off or pick up!

    Glad new girl is setting in and hoping that other mom is understanding and just busy and will contact you re getting her deposit back soon - the 'waiting for a shoe to drop' would drive me crazy!!!!
    Children construct their own intelligence. The adult must provide activities and context, but most of all must be able to listen. Children need proof that adults believe in them. Their three great desires are to be listened to, to understand, and to demonstrate that they are exactly what we expect."
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    Hm, yeah it is driving me crazy. She checks email regularly, so I know she'll get it. As I said yesterday, he was diagnosed with roseola, so he was scheduled to attend, but it was already understood that he wouldn't be coming today. His next scheduled day is to be Friday. We'll see. I'll update as soon as she flips out on me....I mean, gets into contact.

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    It sounds like you did the right thing. I wouldn't have made it about the pregnancy as some others suggested as it was her right not to tell she was pregnant. I had a client who was pregnant when her child started with me and did not tell me, but told me when she was 3 months along at the same time she told everyone else. I didn't see anything wrong with it. A lot of moms keep their kids in daycare during mat leave anyway, so one can't assume it is short term, although this mom probably wouldn't have stayed! Good luck!

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    Yep...she got nasty. LOL

    I didn't hear anything back from her, so I tried calling again. No answer, so I sent another email saying that I hadn't heard anything from her, and was wondering how to refund her deposit. I told her that if I didn't hear from her in the next few days that I would email transfer it to the address where we had been corresponding. She then emailed me back immediately and told me to wait, asked me what my hurry was, and then proceeded to tell me how I had greatly inconvenienced her, and my pulling out of our arrangemnt has made her have to cancel returning to work. I'm SURE...She didn't even seek care until two weeks ago, and didn't see fit to make it to my house to sign the paperwork until three days before care was due to start!

    I then sent an email back telling her I'd await her reply re the money, and then told her that the real reason I'd cancelled care was because I wasn't pleased about her repeatedly not calling when she said she was going to, and also because she clearly didn't value my time as she left me waiting inside my home with daycare children for three hours without an apology. I told her that if she wished to find quality care for her son, that perhaps in future she should be a little more courteous to child care providers. Shrug. She might slander my name, but I don't mind much. I have a loyal group, and they all know that I am good at what I do. Sour grapes.
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    She's bitter but she'll get over it. Hopefully, this will open her eyes!

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    She cancelled going back to work because of you? Yeah right! What a liar! It was obvious she didn't wanted to go to work, she only wanted to go to work to get maternity rights. I wouldn't feel sorry for her at all. I hate people thinking that the world goes around them. Good that you opened her eyes. I always prefer and do tell the truth however hard it can be. And always tell people "if you don't let people what is bothering you or they are in the wrong how would they know whatever they are doing is upsetting or annoying you?"

    I'm glad you told her the truth and opened her eyes And I'm even glad that you had the option to not choose her

    I hope the new family and the baby is hantastic for you

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