So true playfelt .... When I had my first mat leave was 16 weeks .... At that age babies don't really care who holds/ feeds/plays with them so much easier when I had my second I couldn't afford mat leave so I was back at work within weeks by the time I had my 3rd, 4th and 5th mat leave was a year .... I have always had the experience if you let your child play on the floor or in a playpen as opposed to holding them all the time it makes for a more I dependent child and therefore they have an easier time adapting to new situations cause they don't always need to be attached to mommy....they are already sure of themselves but of course you always will have the exception. I don't know just been my experience ....