Quote Originally Posted by kangaroomama View Post
kids do rise to expectations often and if we set the bar too low then they remain "babies" for much longer than necessary and this does not do them any service as they will struggle to adjust when they start school.
You are right, but on the other hand, if you set the expectations too high, than you do not do them any service either. You will slowly destroy their self esteem.

They are still babies. Or if you prefer, children. With their own capacities, their own personnalities, their own forces and weeknesses...

Raising kids is not about following a hard line, but about accompanying kids along a line. Sometimes, kids will not follow the line, and instead of pulling them back, you follow them, and help them come back to it.

Maturity doesn't come to all at the same time, at the same age.