Well I have to say that this particular discussion made me think a lot today.

My cryer is sooooo annoying me today. So I thought about you and what you wrote. We are not totally opposites in our opinions, but it got me to see that I might be bending a little bit too much for this dck

Today, mom arrives (and she knows her child is a huge cryer, I've told her numerous time) and he is crying. He wants to get of the toy he is playing with, and needs my help, and also needs to put his shoes back on. So he comes to me, and I sit him and say:"now lets put your shoes on" and there he goes crying and throwing himself on the ground. I could have forced him, but the situation was so ridiculous, you know, that I told him that he wouldn't get off until he was a happy camper putting his shoes on.

Mom got here, I told her what I was doing. She so wanted to hold him, but I was blocking the way (the way I was standing, not actually blocking her way!). So she went on:"Come see mommy, oh are you ok, I don't understand, he doesn't do that at home, command baby put your shoes on..." BABYING HIM BIG TIME! I told her that her son was throwing tantrums for a yes, a no, a maybe and even a yes but hold on a second!

So anyway, you got me thinking, and I am as of now starting to expect more from this particular one! Few ugly days ahead!