I am not sure what to think. Sorry for the long post, but please help.

[Momof4]

I'm so happy that you found a great daycare provider! Just let that old crazy lady make all the threats she wants because she's not going to follow through. However, I might send her an email and tell her that you are recording her verbal threats in writing word for word in case you need to take her to court. It's terrible when a bad HDCP gives all of us good ones a bad name!

[sunnydays]

I am glad you found a provider who is working out for you and your son. It is so important to feel secure and trustful when you drop your child off each day! I am glad you haven't let the one bad apple spoil it for all the good providers out there! As MOMof4 said above, I would document everything in case in comes down to going to court. In fact, I would sit down and write down everything that happened from your first meeting with this woman until now with dates and times if possible (especially things like the wet pants and her comments about it). I would save the messages, but also transcribe them as suggestedf above. I would continue not answering the phone. You don't owe her anything!

[Play and Learn]

Definitely don't owe her anything. Do the same as above posters noted (just like we do in the daycare centers!).

I would go as far as blocking her phone number(s) and emails. Do you have a receipt from the month of March that you paid? Do you have a copy of the contract that you signed? These are also beneficial for later incase she tries to attack you more. If she does try more, I would personally call the cops. There is no need for this.

And I too am glad that you've found someone that suits your childs needs!

[jec]

The providers gave you some great advice. I would go one step further just to contact the police and make them aware of the situation and it's on file...so if she goes any further and does anything like show up at your house then they know about it.

[Skysue]

The providers gave you some great advice. I would go one step further just to contact the police and make them aware of the situation and it's on file...so if she goes any further and does anything like show up at your house then they know about it.

Dido and let her know you made a claim with the police! Good to hear your little man is doing well!

[Lou]

I'm curious as to why she thinks you owe her for April??? You paid for March in full and pulled him out midway through the month. I would make a claim with the police, call her back and say "No, I did not give you notice of withdrawal as I do not need to give notice when my child is being neglected, as neglect is a form of child abuse. I have all of the incidences of abuse documented and photographed and will be turning them in to Children's Protective Services. I also have a report into the police for harrassment. Please stop calling this number as our business with you is long over." CLICK.

I'm so glad that it's working out better with the new provider...I had a bad feeling about the previous one from your last post!

[Sandbox Sally]

I totally agree. You owe her NOTHING. You paid for the month and then used her services five times? I think she's the one coming out on top. Due to her negligence, you have now paid for two weeks worth of daycare TWICE.

I second what the others said about calling the police. It documents the harassment, and it'd be so nice for you to call her and say, "I am telling you to stop harassing me now. I have filed a complaint with the police. They know all about the circumstances which caused my son to be withdrawn from your care. They will be notified if your phone calls continue.

[parentof1]

God I think this lady is crazy wth is wrong with her? She has called my home 3x today demanding payment filling my voicemailbox with her nonsense!! Not only that, but behind my back she is sending "nice emails" to my husband basically calling me crazy, saying that I was unreasonable and that everything I said was lies.....

I sent her this email:

Good Morning __________,

I have received your voice mail, and am writing to express for want of a better term, my thoughts on the subject.

_________ had SOAKED PANTS for 2 days in a row. You mentioned it to me the one day, but failed to the second—I turned him around only to discover he pants were soaked and he had been wearing the SAME PULL UP ALL DAY. I know this as it was marked, say what you will but I have people who are willing to back up my statement if needed. Also it is quite interesting that ___________'s pull ups and wipes were never opened, and when you were confronted about this you back peddled, saying __________’s were being used, he was with you for a week and you never opened them once? At home and in his current care situation _________ uses at least one pull up per day.

WE PAID YOU FOR THE MONTH OF MARCH AND WITHDREW HIM BEFORE THE MONTH WAS EVEN OVER. In fact we did so on Friday March 16 2012, our reason for withdrawal was DUE TO THE FACT THAT YOU WERE NOT CHANGING HIM, NOR WERE YOU FOLLOWING A CONSISTENT POTTY ROUTINE and that is considered neglect (not changing him).

After seeking council on this matter we will not be paying you any fees for the month of April. As stated above ________and I withdrew him due to NEGLECT . We used your services for 5 days!!

Please be advised that any further attempts to contact us by phone/email will be documented and reported to the police as it is now considered harassment, as well if you or any your family members or ____-(THE OTHER DAYHOME PROVIDER) and her family members show up on my property, and gain entry, we will call the police to escort you away as you are not welcomed on our property at anytime or under any circumstances. (we live in an apt)

I will no longer speak with you regarding this issue unless required to do so by law.

Thank you,

_______________

She then emails me back saying I am in breech of contract, and that I am coming up with excuses not to pay, is this girl on something?

What do I do if she takes me to court?

How should I handle this?

Please help me....tears are streaming down my face, because I cannot believe that someone would try to tell my husband that I am a liar, and not only that be sneaky about it, does she not think we live in the same home? Or share things?

[Lou]

Is she threatening to take you to court?

[parentof1]

not so far, but she probly will, cause she seems that crazy...I cannot believe this!