SORRY - but if a kid pees his pants and doesn't want to be changed TOO FREAKING BAD! This is a huge red flag for me. makes me wonder what other things she is not doing. She rolls her eyes at you? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Pull him! There are plenty of other daycare who would have the better patience, discipline, and knowledge of children to treat your child properly.

It's not uncommon for 3 year old boys to be stubborn or for children to test boundaries when in a new setting