Oh good luck parentof1! I emailed my newest daycare Mom almost daily because I was having picky eating and some other issues with her daughter and she appreciated it so much. It was no problem for me to sit down as the children were falling asleep and send off a quick email to tell her how our day was going and to ask a few quick questions. It eased her mind so much and made her feel like she was still a part of her daughter's transition into the daycare and now she loves me so much, haha.

I have a feeling you need a caregiver who will be wonderful to your son and to you now that you've had a few bad experiences because you are going to need to build a trust with the daycare provider. Don't be afraid to ask questions because your son is the most precious thing in your life and you have a right to be confident with your caregiver.