I am not sure what to think. Sorry for the long post, but please help.

[parentof1]

So it's been five days.... My son is at his new dayhome and his provider has nothing but good things to say, and says that my boy is a wonderful addition to her group as he seems to want to be "big brother." to some of the younger ones. Shares very well, loves her teen daughters and her husband....

She even went as far to say that she thinks that his previous daycare was trumping any training progress with the toliet as he has been in underwear all week with one pee accident, and some poop accidents, instead of the solied pull ups he was coming home in, which is a relief for me. (pooping is a bit more of a job but we are all working very hard. )

She says it will come as he loves getting jelly belly's for his washroom efforts...(He gets them at home too) She only uses pull ups if they are in the car, or on the bus so it means that they are going through them a lot slower too.

Our previous provider is calling us multiple times daily demanding payment --saying that she believes in her dayhome and we are slandering her--she leaves this in vm as I do not answer the phone.... I know that all of you work very hard for your money, and I WOULD NEVER EVER JIP ANYONE UNDER NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCES.

We have paid upfront for March and she is seeking a 600.00 payment for April even though I withdrew him after 5 days, DUE TO NEGLECT. As previously posted, any advice on how to deal with this hose beast?

[Momof4]

I'm so happy that you found a great daycare provider! Just let that old crazy lady make all the threats she wants because she's not going to follow through. However, I might send her an email and tell her that you are recording her verbal threats in writing word for word in case you need to take her to court. It's terrible when a bad HDCP gives all of us good ones a bad name!

[sunnydays]

I am glad you found a provider who is working out for you and your son. It is so important to feel secure and trustful when you drop your child off each day! I am glad you haven't let the one bad apple spoil it for all the good providers out there! As MOMof4 said above, I would document everything in case in comes down to going to court. In fact, I would sit down and write down everything that happened from your first meeting with this woman until now with dates and times if possible (especially things like the wet pants and her comments about it). I would save the messages, but also transcribe them as suggestedf above. I would continue not answering the phone. You don't owe her anything!

[Play and Learn]

Definitely don't owe her anything. Do the same as above posters noted (just like we do in the daycare centers!).

I would go as far as blocking her phone number(s) and emails. Do you have a receipt from the month of March that you paid? Do you have a copy of the contract that you signed? These are also beneficial for later incase she tries to attack you more. If she does try more, I would personally call the cops. There is no need for this.

And I too am glad that you've found someone that suits your childs needs!

[jec]

The providers gave you some great advice. I would go one step further just to contact the police and make them aware of the situation and it's on file...so if she goes any further and does anything like show up at your house then they know about it.

[Skysue]

The providers gave you some great advice. I would go one step further just to contact the police and make them aware of the situation and it's on file...so if she goes any further and does anything like show up at your house then they know about it.

Dido and let her know you made a claim with the police! Good to hear your little man is doing well!

[Lou]

I'm curious as to why she thinks you owe her for April??? You paid for March in full and pulled him out midway through the month. I would make a claim with the police, call her back and say "No, I did not give you notice of withdrawal as I do not need to give notice when my child is being neglected, as neglect is a form of child abuse. I have all of the incidences of abuse documented and photographed and will be turning them in to Children's Protective Services. I also have a report into the police for harrassment. Please stop calling this number as our business with you is long over." CLICK.

I'm so glad that it's working out better with the new provider...I had a bad feeling about the previous one from your last post!

[Sandbox Sally]

I totally agree. You owe her NOTHING. You paid for the month and then used her services five times? I think she's the one coming out on top. Due to her negligence, you have now paid for two weeks worth of daycare TWICE.

I second what the others said about calling the police. It documents the harassment, and it'd be so nice for you to call her and say, "I am telling you to stop harassing me now. I have filed a complaint with the police. They know all about the circumstances which caused my son to be withdrawn from your care. They will be notified if your phone calls continue.