Melt down madness

[Momof4]

I love your 3 posts Cadillac! It's so true that a 2 year old must be under control BEFORE the terrible twos! I have a 23 month old boy in my care who is the sweetest most wonderful little guy. But he's had short timeouts nonstop for the past couple of months, mostly because he isn't listening to me when I tell him to stop something or come to me when we are outside. These instructions are very important for safety reasons and he needs to know NOW I mean business when I give him an instruction. I sit him out of the play for less than a minute, repeat to him what he did wrong at least 3 times while he's sitting there looking at his friends playing, then let him go with one more warning. I know it works because I've done it with my own children and my daycare children for 4 years now.

[jec]

Last one I SWEAR!!!!

Don't think that your lack of years in the field limits you ability to do right by the children. Give yourself a little credit.

Thanks for the advice and support!

[jec]

He is so testing me..I just had to look at him today when he had something in his mouth and then walked right up to me to hand me the toy. He must have handed me at least 10 toys today!! Mmmm.....not too effective taking the toy away is it!
His outbreaks just seemed to have started on a Monday with me and chatted with both parents about any changes like it was mentioned before and they said that they have noticed that he has been having little outbursts.
I am confident in my ability as a daycare provider ( not babysitter ) but this little guy has some serious meltdowns that I've never come across...until now! I'm always open to learning or trying something new

OK so time outs~ I'm coming across more parents that don't believe in them. I totally agree with you momof4 for safety reasons...when the little ones need to know that we mean business for their own saftey then I agree with it.

[Momof4]

Well, I guess I just believe in the consistency rule of behaviour for children so I'll stick with timeouts. If anybody has a better idea I'd love to hear it!

I have a 15 month old boy who is putting everything in his mouth and drooling on my couch until it is drool soaked by noon if we have an inside morning and it's completely grossing me out, but he can't help it, he's teething. I'm so tired of saying 'no toys in your mouth' 100 million times a day! I have a 23 month old with his fingers in his mouth all day because his molars are coming in poor guy, but he's drooling too and getting germs in his mouth all the time, ewwwwww.

I don't give them timeouts for this behaviour by the way, that's just natural. However, when there is bad behaviour or non-listening for the 23 month old there is a time out. I don't give 15 month old children a time out, I guess I start that at about 20 months or older when they understand what it's all about.

[jec]

I believe in being consistant with correcting behaviour too. I think time outs depend upon the child and how they respond to them. What works for one, might not for another. I had a little one who liked to push and takes toys ....I have decided to try out a different method by being stern in my words that we don't push our friends and or take toys ~ you have to take turns. I'll get the one who pushed to give his friend a hug and give back the toy. the little one threw a few toys and I'd wait until he picked it up and made him give it back to the little one he took it from.
The reason I"m trying this method is I had I've had a few problems with time outs. I had one little one- the one I'm talking about above, time outs didn't phase him- he would get out of his time out and do it again, go back into time out, do it again, go back into time out. Circle in his chair- spit while in his chair. it wan't being effective. I tried making him more accountable for his actions above and I really saw a difference in him. However like someone said before, I've had to put someone out in a time out when at the park so they understood that they have to listen to me for saftey reasons.

It is nasty the constant drooling and thankfully my litlte ones almost have all their teeth! We might just throw a party once they are all in-lol!