Mom's Waffling About Leaving Us

[Sandbox Sally]

Playfelt, I think you hit the nail on the head. I think she's in denial about having to get rid of her dog. I really think you're right, that I have to assume that I am losing this little guy whether it be by her decision or mine.

Crappy thing is, she's become great friends with another mom from my group, and I really don't want to upset the balance by terminating if ykwim.

[Inspired by Reggio]

...Crappy thing is, she's become great friends with another mom from my group, and I really don't want to upset the balance by terminating if ykwim.

I would not look at is as 'terminating' but in making the hard decision to do what is BEST for both them and yourself ... if she is THAT allergic to dogs your home is no longer the ideal arrangement no matter how much she loves you or your program and you are just helping to pull off that bandaid of realization for her by pushing her ... she might actually be grateful cause she might be thinking it is a shitty thing to do to YOU terminating YOU over a DOG ... kwim?

[Spixie33]

I think you pretty much need to be interviewing for her spot.

She may not want to face the facts but if a doctor has told her that she is allergic to the point where even dander on kids' clothes affect her then how could she even think of leaving her son with you?

She probably loves you and wants to stay and doesn't want to sever ties but maybe you need to be the one to say 'sorry the spot is filled' and give her that push out the door.

I think eventually she will leave or HAVE to leave based on her health - she is just prolonging the inevitable.

Good luck though