A hard situation, need advice

[Inspired by Reggio]

Wow - I really hope that they have called in a professional child therapist to help that child discover what is a DREAM and what was REALITY for her!

I once had a daycare child whose parent found 'scratches' on her child's body in the thigh area while at the Dr about a 'itchy vagina' and the mom and Dr asked her 'oh my what happened?' and the kid said a child in my daycare program and 'scratched her down there' and the Dr scared the crap out of the mother saying she must have been abused and that was why the yeast infection and so forth cause kids do not LIE about stuff like that ... well needless to say STRESS for me as well as mom helping them to figure this out ... however I KNEW she was not telling the accurate truth because the kid she named had not been in my program for almost a YEAR so than it was trying to figure out when or how something like that could happen at daycare cause the kids are NEVER along and so forth so I was sure it had not occurred HERE and given the kids 'imagination' I questioned if it had happened at all ... I explained to the parent that you have to be VERY careful in how you deal with questions like that because you can plant a seed that something BAD happened to a situation that was in fact innocent in nature ... when the parent went back and told the child it could not have been X cause she does not go to your daycare anymore than she blamed a kid at big school where she also attended alternating days so the school had to file a report and involve that poor child's family as well .... horrible situation for everyone!

In the END after CAS investigated and talked to all parties it turned out eventually that the DAUGHTER admitted had scratched HERSELF during exploration down there and she thought mom and the Dr were angry with her so she BLAMED someone else to avoid getting in trouble ... something kids do ALL THE TIME in childhood

Not saying something did not 'happen' to this child however that often the FIRST person accused of it is often not the REAL perpetrator and hopefully with some help and counseling they can find out what really happened ... did someone ELSE at that park with the brother touch her and to avoid getting the brother in trouble for not 'watching' closely she is blaming someone else and so forth?

Hope this is resolved quickly for you and your family!