Conflicting Beliefs/Opinions

[mom-in-alberta]

I hope that these extra challenges are what is causing the issues, because that means that there is an end in sight!!

[Momof4]

I tell parents at the interview stage that WE ARE A TEAM WE HAVE TO WORK TOGETHER. That's pretty much my motto.

Also, a really smart friend of mine said this: Never negotiate with a terrorist, a teenager or a toddler. Just take charge.

This tagline is now on my bulletin board near my front door for all parents to see. It's so true! If parents take charge of their little ones with specific routines the way we HAVE to with 5 little ones in care every day there would be so much less craziness in their households. These little ones know when they can rule the house and take charge of their parents rather than the other way around. I tell parents all the time, you need to take back your household because this little tiny person is running you in circles. Sad but true.

[Sandbox Sally]

Nightmare morning. I am actually sitting here with tears in my eyes. She "fake" cried all morning, meaning there are NO tears, and it's more of an incredibly loud whine than a cry. My kids are home today, and my mom's visiting, and I got to the point where I absolutely refused to let anyone pick her up, as I could see that she was manipulating me. Something would catch her interest, and she'd stop for a minute, then she'd remember she was whining, so she'd start again. NO tears. I really don't think it's her teeth any more. She refuses the sling. She wants to be held and have her back rubbed constantly, and this is week three. I just can't physically do it.

Parents got her to have 12 hours sleep last night, and right now I am listening to her scream from the other room. She napped for TWENTY minutes. It's been three weeks.

I. AM. DONE.

[playfelt]

Momof4 I love it. Hubby is military, all my own 4 kids are 19 years or older and I have a houseful of toddler daycare.......it so applies here.

[Momof4]

Alpha, I have a 16 month old boy who can fake cry off and on like a switch and he screamed for 4 months before I got him to be happy here FINALLY! Now, when he starts up I very loudly use his name & STOP! Guess what, he does stop! I know it sounds terrible, but then after I use the loud voice initially and he stops then I soothingly say to him, that's a good boy, no need to cry and other little things like that so he's getting good attention for stopping. Then I quickly move on to something else.

I had to find a solution because he's extremely loud and was making all the other children and me crazy with his nonstop screaming. I can't believe I lasted for 4 months but the parents kept working with me and we got him under control. Today was one of those days when he turned it off and on all day and we still have some of those days. I have to watch him like a hawk because I want to see if one of the other children are bumping into him or anything but nope, he just starts for no reason whatsoever. It's absolutely maddening I know!