You need and deserve your break. I don't think this can go on as it is as you will burn out or melt down or both Did you discuss napping during the interview at all (I am also making notes for myself as it is something I discuss in the itnerview, but not in detail and now I am thinking perhaps in detail is better so everyone is on the same page). It sounds like you have conflicting parenting/caregiving styles and that is the main problem. If the child is used to crying it out, that may well be the only way you are going to get her to sleep. I understand your feelings as I never really did it with my own kids (although I sometimes did if they were having trouble going down and overtired, but even then it was after around the age of a year when I knew they understood better. And I hated it when people told me I should let them cry it out as I wasn't asking for advice! So, you may not like my advice, but I don't know what else to suggest. I would say if she wakes up early, go back and lay her down and tell her naptime isn't over yet, rub her back a little and leave and let her cry...go back and repeat every 5 min or so until she sleeps. I've had great success with this method with some little ones who won't nap for their parents, but will here now. Otherwise, you may have to terminate!