Ashleigh, most definitely a good idea to get a very firm sense of his routine etc during the interview so that I can decide if he would thrive here. I will definitely focus on this when I meet with them.

Momof4, not sure that I will use any outside resources to help care for the child, but it's worth looking into for sure. I don't feel frightened at all! I am excited. I do think that I will have the time for a little special attention, as all of my kids (except one at nap time) are settled nicely. I only have four at a time, too. It's a very good point about seeing how the parents are approaching his autism, and whether they're interested enough to have taken measures to help. I do acknowledge that naps will still be chaos for a while, especially if this new child has any sleep issues.