"Please stop potty training"

[gcj]

So, I have a little guy (23 months) who showed signs of readiness for potty training. And...I was really tired of his #2s in his diaper So within a week, I had him trained. Not outside and not sleeping, but 100% in the house.....apparently just at daycare, though. His mom says that at home he will not go on the potty. He pees all over the floor and doesn't tell them. Here he peed once on the floor the first day. After that, he SO got it. I don't even have to tell him when to go...he just goes.
BUT since it's not working at home, mom wants me stop here. Back in diapers, put away the potty. But, I don't want to. It works here. It's a great first step. Why say, "ok, you can, but nah, here's a diaper, pee away" ?!?!
Do I have to respect mom's wishes? They are generally great parents and we always see eye to eye...until this.

[Cadillac]

sounds like she's a little jealous that it works for you and not her. You probably can imagine the feelings that go along with it.
Has she only asked that you stop? or have you had a conversation about continuing at your house and stopping at home?

I wouldn't stop! That's SOOOOOO confusing for a kid!

[Dreamalittledream]

No way, really? He should be praised! And how about the financial aspect...saving on diapers? Sure!! I just don't get parents. I would be tempted to do what you always do and throw a diaper back on 15 min. Before pick up time.

[Play and Learn]

I wouldn't even throw a diaper back on him before leaving. Obviously he is ready, but knows how to push his parents buttons!

Why stop when it works for you!? Congrats to the little guy!

[Cadillac]

LOl I'd probably be a little sneaky and throw the diaper back on 15 min before pick up too. then when she teaches his at home she feels good that it was HER doing.

[michellesmunchkins]

I would never revert backwards either. If he's doing it for you fantastic! Keep doing whatever it is you are doing. If she wants him in diapers at home then he gets put in one just before leaving your house and she can keep him in them until she sees fit.

I get that she wants him to do it at home and for her, but why make your child go backwards??? I have a little here who is the opposite...will do it at home but refuses to even try here...so she stays in diapers here until she is ready to do it here and at home she is in underwear...

[gcj]

She definitely wants me to stop if he doesn't improve at home over the long weekend. She said she wants both of us to do the same thing, and if it doesn't work at home she stops, therefore I stop.
But I won't. The other day the dad said they asked him to go potty...he didn't, then did it right after in his Pull-Up. Well, duh! A Pull-Up is a diaper. They gave him the choice. Here there are no Pull-Ups unless we're going outside. It's potty or all over yourself! Guess what, he chooses potty!
Thanks ladies. At least I know I'm not being stubborn. I can NOT go back to his #2s in a diaper! Trust me!!!!!

[gcj]

I've had others that have a lot of accidents at home after daycare even if it works here. I think that's more a matter of the child just being tired.

[sunnydays]

I have the same problem...little one who has been doing really well at home, but won't go for me...won't even try! It's a little frustrating for his parents, but we've tried everything. I can't imagine telling the parents that they should stop at home too since it isn't working here (to turn the situation around). However, I do think you need to have an honest discussion about it with the parents. I would explain all the reasons why you think it is better for the child to continute training with you. I wouldn't lie and pretend he is wearing diapers.

I would never revert backwards either. If he's doing it for you fantastic! Keep doing whatever it is you are doing. If she wants him in diapers at home then he gets put in one just before leaving your house and she can keep him in them until she sees fit.

I get that she wants him to do it at home and for her, but why make your child go backwards??? I have a little here who is the opposite...will do it at home but refuses to even try here...so she stays in diapers here until she is ready to do it here and at home she is in underwear...

[michellesmunchkins]

I have the same problem...little one who has been doing really well at home, but won't go for me...won't even try! It's a little frustrating for his parents, but we've tried everything. I can't imagine telling the parents that they should stop at home too since it isn't working here (to turn the situation around). However, I do think you need to have an honest discussion about it with the parents. I would explain all the reasons why you think it is better for the child to continute training with you. I wouldn't lie and pretend he is wearing diapers.

Kangaroomama I have tried everything with her as well. I don't give candy as rewards but use sticker books and other items to encourage them to try. I won't force them either. If she flat out refuses then that's the end of it. I won't have a child upset and crying over peeing on the potty. When she's ready to do it here it will happen. I'm sure the parents aren't happy that she won't do it here either since she's so good with it at home. It all takes time and they eventually come around and do it when THEY are ready. I keep encouraging it everyday, but no pressure!