Awesome point Playfelt ... I do that approach with many things ... like when I see a parent dressing a perfectly capable child or carrying a child perfectly capable of walking I say right to the child 'Wow X why are you making mama do that - you know you can put your coat on all by yourself - show your mama what a big boy you are' or 'Oh my X you are going to break mamas back you are far to big to be carried to the car - show mama how you can walk!"