So...How long do I let her cry before I move on?

[Momof4]

I had one who SCREAMED for 7 months, one for 4 months, but the 4 month screamer had a milk allergy so once his parents believed they should try lactose free products he got happy, jeeeesh! The 7 month screamer is still here too and eventually I got her under control. Those are the two worst scenarios I've had. If they could all come in happy this job would be too easy, now wouldn't it?

If the parents are making suggestions and listening to your suggestions and making sure the baby's schedule is the same at home and daycare so she can adjust into routines then I say keep trying. If the Mom isn't trying to help you at all, well, good luck! You will know when you have reached your limit.

[Judy Trickett]

I had one who SCREAMED for 7 months, one for 4 months, but the 4 month screamer had a milk allergy so once his parents believed they should try lactose free products he got happy, jeeeesh! The 7 month screamer is still here too and eventually I got her under control. Those are the two worst scenarios I've had. If they could all come in happy this job would be too easy, now wouldn't it?

If the parents are making suggestions and listening to your suggestions and making sure the baby's schedule is the same at home and daycare so she can adjust into routines then I say keep trying. If the Mom isn't trying to help you at all, well, good luck! You will know when you have reached your limit.

I know you are a terrific provider. I KNOW this.

BUT....I don't think it matters how nice the parents are or how much they might "say" they are trying to help. The fact of the matter is that we have to spend 9 hours a day with the CHILD and if that child is negative to the environment then we have to move on.

I have had parents who were really nice people but their child was just not a happy person. That's just who that child WAS and no amount of trying was gonna change that child or make our daycare days happier.

At some point you just have to say "enough is enough" and move on with no guilt.

[Momof4]

I know you are a terrific provider. I KNOW this.

BUT....I don't think it matters how nice the parents are or how much they might "say" they are trying to help. The fact of the matter is that we have to spend 9 hours a day with the CHILD and if that child is negative to the environment then we have to move on.

I have had parents who were really nice people but their child was just not a happy person. That's just who that child WAS and no amount of trying was gonna change that child or make our daycare days happier.

At some point you just have to say "enough is enough" and move on with no guilt.

You know I respect you tremendously Judy, but I guess I hang in there because the thought of interviewing again and starting over from day one again just makes me tired. My little boy who has been here for 6 months had a really bad day today, crying for no reason whatsoever. It's exhausting and the other children actually don't like him and don't want to play with him. My goal is to turn him into a nice little boy who can learn to be social and normal and I'm sure I can do it.

Alpha, you had to do what's best for you and your daycare and I'm sure you will fill the space asap. So glad the Mom was good about it for you, so best of luck!