So...How long do I let her cry before I move on?

[Sandbox Sally]

Thanks for the support, as always, women. Her mom actually found someone right away, so I am FREE! Hurray! I will sign one of three new little ones this Friday, and I am happy once again.

Reggio, I completely hear what you are saying re communication and crying, and also being out of her element, but this one cried when I held her unless I was walking around or bouncing her. She wasn't crying to have her needs met, because as I see it, I WAS meeting all her needs, and then some!

Do you think that some kids and providers, even if they're both great, just don't mesh?

[Inspired by Reggio]

...Do you think that some kids and providers, even if they're both great, just don't mesh?

Yup ... some personalities are just not meant to work together and sometimes children's little brains are just so complex you do not know WHY they are freaking out about one thing or another!

All throughout my career I have seen children be little Angels for Provider A and Provider B walks into the room does not do or say anything but all of a sudden the child is full of behaviour - they just do not LIKE each other for whatever reason ... some sixth sense from a past life who knows?

Back in the 17 week maternity leave era we once had a kid in centre care who would scream ALL DAY LONG unless it was ME who was holding him or sitting beside him ... NINE MONTHS this kids screamed bloody murder if I was not in the room - he was 'content' if I was in the room but he would only eat for me, fall asleep for me and so forth and if I was with another child he would loose his little noodle flapping his arms and screaming ... it was STRESSFUL for everyone including me because I basically ended up having to care for this one kid while my two coworkers had to manage the other NINE babies on their own and if I had to take a sick day or vacation it was weeks of HELL for everyone - my coworkers were awesome caring people, his parents were TRYING to encourage him to be more tolerant of other people and working on delayed gratification so that he could trust I would meet his needs when done meeting the needs of another child but the dude was just afraid of everyone one and everything ... lord help anyone if another babe started crying in the room it would take forever to calm him down! I think he took to me because I was very similar in appearance and size to his mother and our voice tones were similar ... just as his 1 year birthday was approaching we were at the point of finally having to sit down with his parents and say 'this is not going to work' cause he was due to graduate to the next infant room and I was NOT willing to make that move with him and everyone was afraid how the kid would cope with the 'change' ... and than like a light switch one day he just started 'tolerating' others and would be more happy to crawl around and play and so forth even when I left the room, started letting others feed him and so forth cause all along we kept TRYING to set goals and make progress we did not want to cow tow to 'behaviour' that might have been developed .... weirdest kid I have EVER cared for as far as phobias go - we tried everything but this kid was literally beyond distraught when others had to care for him and well at 3 months of age it was NOT BEHAVIOUR because at that age infants do not have the cognitive ability to manipulate people .... it was some sort of internal FEAR governing this kids instincts ... he would literally rather starve himself during the day than calm down enough to eat from someone other than a parent or me and thankfully for him he took to me otherwise I imagine he would have failed to thrive at all within the program and they would have had to terminate him because his mother's boss would not have tolerated her having to leave and come feed him everyday - one thing for one of my sick days but not a long term solution!