Whats your take? Terminate or stick through it?

[mom-in-alberta]

Well, I suppose hindsight is 20/20, right? When mom would "rather not" bring the children she expects you to care for.... not good. LoL

Violence and aggression would be the major issue for me. I am glad that she's improved, but the fact that she hits someone "at least twice a day" is not acceptable. Do the other children just cower when she comes near? I wouldn't blame them!! How did mom/dad react when you started dealing with this? What was their response? Clearly, it is allowed behaviour. That would be the deal breaker for me. You are responsible for the greater good of the group here, not just these siblings.
I hope you let them stay in the pajamas until they got home. I am not going to get your kids dressed for you. We have planned PJ days all the time, and on my days off I am rarely dressed before noon if I don't have somewhere to be. But I ask that children arrive dressed and "ready for the day". If you bring them in a state of disarray, chances are they don't have their teeth brushed or their hair brushed (am I supposed to do that? and what are the other kids doing while I am helping your child get ready for the rest of our activities?), and it's not too long before parents "forget" things like sunhats or winter mittens when they are lackadaisical like this in the morning.
I am fine with people sending breakfast with their kids, as long as they are arriving before 8:30am. I don't provide it, but I will turn away "junk" food (like Cheese Puffs, lol!). The fibre bar is questionable. I would let it slide, even if it wouldn't be my choice for the first meal of the day.
I agree with Lisa. Give them a letter detailing your expectations. Put a definitive time line on it, and if there is no improvement, terminate.

[PJHD]

Thanks everyone for your opinions and support!

Today at the park was horrible. The girl spit at me THREE TIMES while placing her in the stroller for a time out. Once she was calm and when I spoke to her about that behavior and she was out, it was soon after she threw wood chips at my face and again she was in the stroller strapped in but this time did not come out as she lost her park privileges.

As I live in a smaller town it may take a while to find replacements but then again there are so many kids in my community....

What else can I do with her????? I feel so bad as they live across the street.... but I have to think of whats best for my kids. Any suggestions on coping with her behavior till I find a replacement?

[michellesmunchkins]

Thanks everyone for your opinions and support!

Today at the park was horrible. The girl spit at me THREE TIMES while placing her in the stroller for a time out. Once she was calm and when I spoke to her about that behavior and she was out, it was soon after she threw wood chips at my face and again she was in the stroller strapped in but this time did not come out as she lost her park privileges.

As I live in a smaller town it may take a while to find replacements but then again there are so many kids in my community....

What else can I do with her????? I feel so bad as they live across the street.... but I have to think of whats best for my kids. Any suggestions on coping with her behavior till I find a replacement?

She spit at you???? wow!!! That would be a deal breaker for me. I'm all for putting up with, dealing with and correcting behaviour but spitting is disgusting. That's a learned behaviour and unacceptable!!!! Unless I was desperate for the money she would be gone effective immediately!

I refuse to take neighbours or friends kids just for reasons like this. Its much harder to terminate because you feel bad about it, but if they don't address the fact that she disrespects you to the point of spitting at you then they don't deserve you. We put up with some much crap and disrespect in this job that for me, spitting would cross the line. Maybe its just me, but it makes my blood boil just thinking about it. I'm so sorry you are going through this!!!!

[PJHD]

I know! when I say spit i mean stick the tounge out and spit while making a sound. that to me still counts as spitting. she is so frustrating...

[Inspired by Reggio]

I know! when I say spit i mean stick the tounge out and spit while making a sound. that to me still counts as spitting. she is so frustrating...

Ya blowing a 'raspberry' AT someone specially in 'anger' is SOCIALLY UNACCEPTABLE and is not tolerated here either!

[Nottellin']

Thanks everyone for your opinions and support!

Today at the park was horrible. The girl spit at me THREE TIMES while placing her in the stroller for a time out. Once she was calm and when I spoke to her about that behavior and she was out, it was soon after she threw wood chips at my face and again she was in the stroller strapped in but this time did not come out as she lost her park privileges.

As I live in a smaller town it may take a while to find replacements but then again there are so many kids in my community....

What else can I do with her????? I feel so bad as they live across the street.... but I have to think of whats best for my kids. Any suggestions on coping with her behavior till I find a replacement?

She spit at you?!?!

Nope, no way. Terminated today.