Potential Family asks Current Family to fill out referral questionnaire????

[Sandbox Sally]

Why wouldn't she just verbally ASK the parents these questions? I would have made her appear much less crazy...jeez louise.

As for the questions themselves - I don't think she has any idea what she's talking about anyway. She has a piss poor vision of what makes a good daycare if she's judging whether she'd choose one based on those questions.

[Inspired by Reggio]

....As for the questions themselves - I don't think she has any idea what she's talking about anyway. She has a piss poor vision of what makes a good daycare if she's judging whether she'd choose one based on those questions.

Ya - I agree some of those were 'normal' questions ... I too would want to confirm some of those things if I was leaving my child somewhere - however some of those questions could get you a 'false' sense of security or a false red flag depending on view points!

For example if a child not 'wanting' to go to daycare is being seen as a RED FLAG that the provider is not up to par - well that is out of context ... how old is the child, what is their temperament, what is their attachment to their own parents and so forth?

I have children who run into program without looking back and others who you even after months of being here you still have to peel off mamas leg some mornings despite the fact that the minute mama is gone they are off playing just fine ... there is a very FINE line between it being normal for a child to have separation anxiety leaving the parent in the morning and a child whose 'dislike' of going to daycare is based on something be 'wrong' with the daycare.

Heck we had a child in centre care who would start at home screaming the minute they mentioned it was a daycare day, he resisted getting dressed, he kicked and thrashed and cried to puking in the ride over to the program, you had to peel him off the parents and while after a while he would eventually 'succumb' to choosing to play at daycare he was just not 'happy' to be there it was sort of spend the day 'moping' .... we were not doing anything WRONG in our program other children thrived and loved it it was just THIS kid was not a group care kid he wanted to be HOME with his parents and he let every single person know that!

[michellesmunchkins]

Ya - I agree some of those were 'normal' questions ... I too would want to confirm some of those things if I was leaving my child somewhere - however some of those questions could get you a 'false' sense of security or a false red flag depending on view points!

For example if a child not 'wanting' to go to daycare is being seen as a RED FLAG that the provider is not up to par - well that is out of context ... how old is the child, what is their temperament, what is their attachment to their own parents and so forth?

I have children who run into program without looking back and others who you even after months of being here you still have to peel off mamas leg some mornings despite the fact that the minute mama is gone they are off playing just fine ... there is a very FINE line between it being normal for a child to have separation anxiety leaving the parent in the morning and a child whose 'dislike' of going to daycare is based on something be 'wrong' with the daycare.

Heck we had a child in centre care who would start at home screaming the minute they mentioned it was a daycare day, he resisted getting dressed, he kicked and thrashed and cried to puking in the ride over to the program, you had to peel him off the parents and while after a while he would eventually 'succumb' to choosing to play at daycare he was just not 'happy' to be there it was sort of spend the day 'moping' .... we were not doing anything WRONG in our program other children thrived and loved it it was just THIS kid was not a group care kid he wanted to be HOME with his parents and he let every single person know that!

Exactly!!!!!!!!! You have a way with words!

[Mamma_Mia]

For example if a child not 'wanting' to go to daycare is being seen as a RED FLAG that the provider is not up to par - well that is out of context ... how old is the child, what is their temperament, what is their attachment to their own parents and so forth?

My PT-dcg in the last 2 days has been crying & freaking out at drop-off! Once mom leaves she stops! Today dad dropped her off and he stayed....and she cried. I had to tell him that the longer you stay the worse she will get. So he left.....I held her in my lap trying to calm her down, after 5min I had enough. I put her down and told her to STOP CRYING.....you wont believe what happened. Not only did she stop crying BUT she smiled and said "im all better now"! WTF Kid....you're parents think I'm locking you in a closet by your freak out meanwhile you're just playing them! From that moment on she's been all smiles.

So yeah...that doesn't always mean something is wrong!