And there is a chance that once you bring some things such as this to her attention saying sorry that is not the right way to go about looking for daycare and be sure to do the part mentioned about it would always be someone else's fault for every little thing that she will be aghast and apologize profusely and turn out to be an easy going person that just needs a bit of handholding not a lot. Yes I know she has her child's best interests at heart and playing mother bear in terms of trying to do only the best by her child but she needs to realize that what she did made things worse for her child.