Advice of how to have a difficult conversation

[Sandbox Sally]

Aww Caddy, we're leading the same lives...lol My hub is in construction too!

[michellesmunchkins]

I am a total chicken when it comes to confrontation. I literally feel sick to my stomach when I have to do it...so, if it was me and I couldn't 'get over it' I would email my thoughts and feelings to her and have her do the same for me. Essentially, I am getting out what I need to say and she can do the same without having to do it face to face. Then we have the weekend to decide if we want to continue our working relationship. I know email is soooo impersonal and can be taken in so many ways (usually the wrong ways haha) but I just hate face to face confrontation. I would not be able to get over the way she treated you if it was me without saying something though. It would just fester inside me to the point where I didn't want anything to do with the woman and that would make for a horrible relationship. I don't envy you being put in this position. Sending positive thoughts that all goes well!!!

[Inspired by Reggio]

BTW - speaking of leading by example I would not have a conversation of this magnitude while I was still in charge of other children ... I know it is challenging since we often 'work alone' however if I need to 'talk' to a client at pick up time I always arrange for my spouse to be home early to supervise the children and I have any conversation with the client AWAY from the program and out of ear shot of the clients children and other children...if my spouse cannot come home early for me than I make arrangements with the client to either meet for coffee or talk over the phone depending on the severity of the conversation needing to be head ... I know that I can manage my own emotions during conflict however just do not want the children exposed to any 'raw emotion' from an adult that I cannot control

[Cadillac]

Aww Caddy, we're leading the same lives...lol My hub is in construction too!

LMAO. Now we need to have that coffee. FINALLY someone who understands my life COMPLETELY! Does your grunt like Tim the toolman Taylor too? LOL

[Cadillac]

BTW - speaking of leading by example I would not have a conversation of this magnitude while I was still in charge of other children ... I know it is challenging since we often 'work alone' however if I need to 'talk' to a client at pick up time I always arrange for my spouse to be home early to supervise the children and I have any conversation with the client AWAY from the program and out of ear shot of the clients children and other children...if my spouse cannot come home early for me than I make arrangements with the client to either meet for coffee or talk over the phone depending on the severity of the conversation needing to be head ... I know that I can manage my own emotions during conflict however just do not want the children exposed to any 'raw emotion' from an adult that I cannot control

Yeah I was thinking of this over the day. I don't have back-up today. Perhaps we'll I have the kids outside for pick up and we can have the conversation out of earshot of the kids.

[Mamma_Mia]

Aww Caddy, we're leading the same lives...lol My hub is in construction too!

And mine too!

[Mamma_Mia]

LMAO. Now we need to have that coffee. FINALLY someone who understands my life COMPLETELY! Does your grunt like Tim the toolman Taylor too? LOL

yuppp......my most used line with his is to speak English with me not construction-talk

[Lou]

How'd it go?? Been thinking of you!

[Sandbox Sally]

Me too! Hope we don't have to wait til Monday!

[Momof4]

You can say everything that Alpha and the others suggested but you wouldn't be remiss to say that you needed a week to calm down because you were taken aback by the disrespect and you had to think everything over. That's why you are talking to her now. You also wouldn't be out of line to warn her nicely that if it happens again you will terminate because you will not be verbally abused in your own home. I hope you have a termination clause in your contract that clearly states this fact, I do!