playfelt - I think there may still be lingering feelings on her part. She barks at the kids at my house instead of me. for example, this morning I took off the shoes of her 3 year old to get things moving quicker as she was late (and I know that means she's in a hurry). She barked at her child that she should take off her own shoes and to pay attention to what is going on blah blah blah" basically it was a message for me . . . . not for the child.

On my part? I know I have to get it off my chest that what happened was not ok and will never be tolerated again

I think I'm going to mash together what alphaghetti and playfelt said

I'll tell her that I've given it a week to blow over since emotions were running high last week and ask her if there is anything she would like to discuss. then I'll tell her how disrespected I felt and let her know that I can't tolerate it again. I'll also tell her that I know mornings can be hectic but that I need the children to be brought into my house in a positive manner so that they can be set up to have a positive day. and finally, that if I feel her child is too sick to attend then she is not welcomed to attend. I'll suggest that she find a back-up for times like this as well as when I fall ill.

My husband is a little annoyed that I can't just sweep this under the rug but unfortunately I'm not in construction and this attitude is not a part of the daily life of a provider.

You all made me realize that if I don't plan on terminating instantly that I can't let this go unchecked as it WILL happen again. Thanks for the last words of encouragement I really needed it.