Kangaroomama - do you do a newsletter or other 'information sharing' with your clients? I do a monthly newsletter with either a 'children's corner' or a 'parent corner' in it where I stick links to articles online about various parenting challenges ... so my passive aggressive way of dealing with your 14 month old picky eating would be to do a 'how to raise a healthy eater' article and post links that back up your practice of NOT CATERING to picky eaters if they would like more info on where you got your references in sharing your opinion