I have a 3 1/2 year old boy that has been training since last summer when he turned 3. Parents were told the method was to just put him in underwear and expect him to use the toilet and yes he was to be put on every 30-45 minutes. We had tons of accidents and he just did not care. Finally I said enough and he was not allowed back into daycare without a pull up on. I would continue to potty train but I was not doing any more wet clothes - this was because he sat on my couch and peed it 20 minutes after he had peed in the potty. He never ever said anything about being wet as if he had no concept about what he was doing or the ramifications of it.

What I found was once he went back into a pullup that he did better with potty training because I was able to change my whole approach and give ownership of the task back to him. We still went on the potty at regular intervals but they were 1 1/2 - 2 hours as in before snack before circletime, etc. In between he was expected to ask. Once we stopped harping at him to go pee, asking him if he needed to go pee as in constantly keeping the thought of pee in his mind he started holding it longer and having much more productive pees when he did go. The pressure to not wet his pants was gone. He relaxed, we relaxed and while he is still in a pullup because he won't poop in the toilet he is completely pee trained.