Ummm ----well IMO they should never grow IN to tantrums in the first place

A tantrum gets you time ALONE in my house and that is IT ... it certainly does not get you what you want even if 'later' you calm down and try to ask for it nicely - to little to late today NEXT TIME you remember to talk things out first, it certainly does not get you ATTENTION from others while you throw one or give you the right to ruin other peoples play while having one and it certainly does not WORK to get you what you wanted in the first place leading into the tantrum .... so therefore they quickly outgrow them here cause they do not WORK

I have honestly never had a child in a 'tantrum' stage for more than 1 month tops (provided parents are working WITH me to send the same messages at home) takes upwards of 3 months or so if they are not working 'with me' for the kid to realize that HERE they are not a socially acceptable behavior, they do not resolve your problem or get you want you want AND that no one wants to be around a person who is behaving so negatively - all they get you here is time alone away from the group to think about a 'better way' to communicate your needs to others if you are frustrated or to choose to accept a 'no' about something with grace and dignity .... and whatever you threw the 'tantrum' for the first place is NO LONGER AN OPTION TODAY .... so if it was over a turn for something - that item is no longer an option, it it was because they wanted some 'different' for a meal next meal they get the food that was served at the LAST meal and be thankful for that if they throw a tantrum because they do not want to go home at pick up - the parent gets told to pick them up like a football and LEAVE with them as is - undressed to the car they go ... they the next day they have to tidy up and get ready to go home 10-15 minutes before their parent arrives and 'sit patiently waiting for them and leave graciously when they get there' and if they do not than rinse lather and repeat until they DO leave graciously and well you get the point

I am all about NATURAL consequences and in my opinion that is a natural way to deal with tantrums ... while they may be 'developmentally appropriate' when a child has no language to 'communicate' they are still SOCIAL UNACCEPTABLE and therefore you clearly send the message they are WILL NOT BE TOLERATED - you do not give into them, you do not negotiate with them if a child is refusing to 'comply' you just pick them up and take them to bed and tell them 'when you have calmed down and can TALK to me we can reflect on this - until then you can be here where you are safe and so is everyone else' and when they THROW ONE you make sure that whatever it was they 'wanted' in the first place they do not GET anytime soon so that you do not send the message it WORKED cause otherwise they just KEEP THROWING THEM MORE AND MORE until you get a ticking time bomb kid who tantrums over everything and than they grow up to be that 'classmate' or 'coworker' who always has to get their way and will whine and cry and throw a fit until everyone else just 'capitulates' because they do not want to listen to it