Naptime Crying....tough love?

[gcj]

I feel guilty this evening. When I'm in it, I'm absolutely not giving in, and I think that's necessary when they're testing, but then after I feel I was too hard on them. But, I'd do it all over again. I know that I'm not doing anyone any favours if I give it. I think when it's my own kids, after they're still there, you have time to move on, do other things, hug, kiss.....when it's a dck, they're gone soon after and that's kind of how you end the day....I don't know...hard to explain.

[gcj]

ok...this isn't getting any better, and I can't do it anymore. We agreed that she could have her little Leapster toy for 1/2 hour, then after that she's obliged to "rest her eyes" for 1/2 hour. VERY reasonable, I feel. Well, it's only actually worked a couple of times. As soon as she cries she loses the privillege of Leapster/books... and then has to complete the full naptime, crying or not...her choice. Last week she was on vacation and today we're not even back at square 1...maybe -100000! Most often, she doesn't get her privilleges for more than 5 minutes before she starts crying...no... screaming. I mean blood curlding shreiking. Her room is right above my dining room and today she was jumping so hard, I thought my dining room chandellier would come down! The globes were shaking.
I'm at a loss. I'm clueless. I hope that a week of doing this consistently she'll realize that it's in her best interest to zip it and keep her privilleges. But so far, not so much...and if she continues, I don't see how I can. HELP??