Hey everyone, it has been a while since I have posted but I am about to lose my sanity if I soon don't get some quiet time...

I have had a little one in care for a month now. The little one did not come prepared for daycare at all First off I should say, I love the family and termination would be an absolutely last resort.

The little one came into care, on pureed infant foods (not even chunks), on the bottle and not knowing how to hold it, having a long morning nap and then not going down until 2:30 (when the rest of my children are just starting to wake up). The child wasn't comfortable using the stairs, etc and the list goes on...

In the month, I have had to take a lot of time off of daycare, so the child hasn't had a full week of daycare yet, but I have seen so many improvements, no more bottle, no more baby food, crawling up and down the stairs, starting to learn the routine etc.

BUT, after the first week (which the little one barely napped to begin with) I asked the parents to cut out the morning nap in favour of an earlier afternoon nap and to stretch that nap out to at least 1.5 - 2 hours. Plus I requested that the little one no longer be bottle fed and rocked to fall asleep so that the little one can learn self soothing. The parents have had success at home, BUT now the little one won't sleep at all at daycare unless it is in stroller while walking. The child will SCREAM the whole 2 hours, if I go in to try and sooth the crying becomes less intense, but the second I leave, the screaming gets worse than before. I have tried being with the child the whole 2 hours and nothing but crying (I can't take that anymore), I have tried tuff luv and let the child cry but that doesn't work. I have tried the 5 min rule and that just upsets the child more. The child has a soother and a special toy from home in the play pen. I have tried the fan on or off and there is no improvement.

There has to be something I am overlooking that might help this little one. I don't do rocking to sleep (don't even have a rocking chair) plus I don't want to create habits that will be hard to break. I have just never had a child in care that doesn't eventually scream themselves tired. I should also mention if by rare chance I do get the little one to fall asleep, it is only for a max of 15 minutes.

Caregiver that is slowly going insane .....