parents - moms in particular often undermine us without even realizing what they are doing. They are so upset about going back to work after the year and missing their baby that they try to make up for it in the evening and on weekends and go back to holding, cuddling till asleep etc. The child reverts to what they expected at 6 months and become helpless at naptime at daycare (on weekends they are coddled too at naptime). I have put a child into a stroller and pushed it back and forth with one hand while eating with the other or with my foot while playing on the computer at naptime. Whatever brings silence.