Quote Originally Posted by mom-in-alberta View Post
....I often wonder if parents are embarrassed to discipline in front of me? Like I might judge them for it? Let me tell ya... I judge them a lot more for NOT disciplining!! LoL
Ya not you - I think it is a combination that they parent out of 'guilt' for the most part and many are afraid to discipline at ALL these days because off all the misinformation out there about 'best practice' with children and needing to promote emotional sense of self and so forth being taken so far the opposite direction of having to be their 'friend' and so forth parents have no clue what is 'appropriate' anymore!

My SIL is a social worker - she gets the teenage version of these children who have not been taught how to thrive in social settings or get their needs met without a melt down ... she goes into the home and observes and so forth ... they have no structure or routine in their lives, have no clear expectations or consequences at home and as a result are out of control at school where they are 'expected' to behave because they are TOLD to behave not because the teacher is bribing them with 'trinkets and special treats' to get them to sit still and attend or they are kicked out of the classroom because they were asked to do something they did not 'want' to do and they threw a fit expecting to 'get out of it' .... cause these are strategies that work at HOME with their parent and when she suggests 'action plans' that include EXPECTATIONS and CONSEQUENCES the parents are always like 'we can do that' .... um YES cause if society is going to expect it of them than the home should too and if the consequence in society is JAIL for doing the same thing than being grounded or loosing privileges in the home is more than reasonable comparative consequence - you certainly do not ignore it or reward them with a 'treat' to get them to stop and behave