I am sorry you are dealing with this Skysue - is sucks that you trusted that your 'relationship' had become more than just you being a business provider and she a client - cause friends do not do that to one another - friends communication openly with each other and trust that the other one will accept their decision even if they do not agree with it ... she obviously is in a different place in the relationship for sure and sadly IMO another lesson in why in this business it is important to keep relationships at that professional 'distance' of business and save and 'social commitments' outside of business for after they have left care cause the two rarely mix and often conflict with each other cause doing what is best for the business is sometimes not what is best for the 'friendship' or vice versa such as you changing your plans for the 'friendship' even though it was not best for the 'business' to have your child on that schedule

I empathize that it can be very hard when your children are involved as well - but the sad reality is that many clients view 'childcare' as disposable including the relationships that are developed in it ... they do not think about the connections and friendships their child is developing just that their 'childcare needs' are met .... which is what allows them to so easily 'rip' their child from one arrangement to another without discussing it with the child or thinking about the child's 'social emotional' needs at that time.... this always breaks my heart to explain to little kids that their 'friend' is now gone from their life and to help them grieve that loss!

The other challenge with this business is that 'everyone out for themselves' mentality ... IMO it leads to negative energy where we are all focused on someone screwing us over we do not trust that the universe can and will take care of us if we LET IT and in our negative frame of mind we 'sabotage' ourselves by attracting that behaviour in each other - we bring out that sense of 'scarcity and need to protect ourselves from each other' ... clients are afraid to be truly HONEST about their long term needs because they are afraid if their honest plan is to LEAVE that the provider might bail on them before they are ready to end the relationship leaving them with no care ... which is why we get clients who are 'vague' in answering questions about plans for the future specially if they are uncertain themselves still. Vise versa - when a provider needs to make a 'change' in their business model they are afraid to tell clients until the last possible minute because they too are afraid the client will bail on them before they are ready leaving them with reduced income and so forth .... loose loose for everyone as everyone is keeping 'closed' what their needs are in each other and therefore no one needs truly get met and everyone is left feeling 'cheated or lied to' ... more negative energy

In reality we need to change our way of thinking to trust that everything happens for a reason even if in the moment it is hard for us to 'recognize' it ... so if a client leaves it is because there is something else around the corner to bring balance back to our program and a new lesson and opportunity into our life....we need to embrace that.

I am an anal planner myself, uncertainty drives me nuts at times, however I have been working VERY hard not to PLAN too far ahead in my business and to not make choices based on any one client or myself for that matter but on the over all needs of the program ... because the reality is that the universe deals us curve balls that we might not anticipate - clients get laid off, clients get transferred, clients move, clients get pregnant, clients get sick, clients separate and divorce and well 'leave' unexpectedly and yes sometimes clients just do not value the relationship the same way we do and 'hurt us' inadvertently with their selfish behaviour ... there are SO MANY things that can happen in our programs that can suddenly make it 'change' in regards to enrollment however if we are always making plans based on the 'overall best interest of the program' it should not matter if one person changes within that because you can and will attract a new person to fill that void and bring balance back into the program!

Sending vibes that your needs for September will be met, both for your business and for your daughter and school ... but trust that if they are 'different' than what you had planned that the reason is because it was meant to be and make the BEST of the situation that arises ... whether it be that you get the schedule A and your DCM leaves and you welcome someone new into your program as a result or be it that you get the schedule A and your client ends up STAYING but is on the B and the girls are 'separated' in class and so forth .... whatever the outcome 'stressing' over it 4-5 months ahead of time is not going to change anything - it only gives that negative energy worrying brings a chance to do damage in your body and soul

I have 3 spaces opening up in my program for September - something that in my past would have been TRULY stressing me out to be getting those filled NOW cause that is a whole lot of income ... however life is too short to be stressing NOW about something A) I have little control over aside from putting it 'out there' that I have a need and B) is 5 months away from that need being met anyway - instead I am hoping for the best but planning for the potential loss by putting some extra money aside 'just in case' but over all I trusting that the universe WILL bring me the clients I need in the time frame that is best for the program and that that extra money will than become 'Christmas funds' instead

Hugs!