I am another one who feels as long as their diet is rich in other sources of calcium no need for 'cows milk' .... is she saying no DAIRY at all or just no milk in cup?

These are good alternatives for dairy free sources of calcium ... switching out wheat flour for an almond flour in baking can 'hid' calcium too in things like muffins.
  • Salmon
  • Tofu
  • Flax Seed
  • Rhubarb
  • Collard greens / Kale
  • Spinach
  • Okra
  • White beans
  • Baked beans
  • Broccoli
  • Peas
  • Brussel sprouts
  • Sesame seeds
  • Bok choy
  • Almonds / Brazil nuts
  • Figs