20 month old won't share and extremely selfish -help

[Momof4]

If I hear the word 'mine' or the behaviour you described in your post I tell the children that the toys are all in fact my toys and that I share them with everyone. Then I tell them that I could put all the toys away in my cupboard or they can share them all. It works for me. At 20 months old this child should definitely be learning how to share. Be patient and keep trying every day until he gets it.

I do have different coloured drinking cups and plates and cutlery for all my daycare children and make sure they know which one is theirs at all times. Especially if I set the cups all out at a park or somewhere I want them to be able to pick out their cup only to prevent the spread of any little germs. So yes, I do recommend that system.

As far as the impatience, I have an 18 month old boy like that who is just now learning to be patient and wait until I say lunchtime or whatever before he can start to go for an activity or home. He's been here 8 months already and for the first 6 months he was an impatient screamer. It's crazy hard on your sanity to listen to screaming like that. I have a gate to the room that I had to close in the beginning because he was out of control, but all the children in my daycare learn that I have rules for everything and I don't bend. You can't bend and you have to be consistent. I always say 'you can't let the inmates take over the asylum'!