Am I being too uptight about this?

[mom-in-alberta]

No, you are certainly not over reacting.
I have 2 boys aged 10 and 8, and those words/ that behaviour is not even a little acceptable. Same as Alpha; yes, they get a little goofy, and yes, farts and burps are funny. But if they get too crazy, it's nipped in the bud. Sexual jokes of that sort are definitely not heard around here.
He's absolutely getting it from home, it's obviously okay there.
I would sit at the table with the two of them and figure this out. Explain in a very no-nonsense voice that you do not like the way they have been behaving. Get a piece of poster paper and make up a list. "We are expected to.... (use indoor voices, not shout; use walking feet, not run; use proper language, etc)". Post it up for them in a common area. When they get rowdy, point to the poster and remind them ONCE. After that, they get separated. If that means they both sit in a chair for the rest of the afternoon in different corners of the room, so be it! Make sure that they know exactly what will be happening. And (I say this hoping you don't get offended); please give them both the same consequences. I know that this boy's influence is what is causing his behaviour, but this is a great time to learn that just because the people around us are doing something, doesn't mean we have to.
Lastly- have you discussed this with mom and dad? What are their reactions/thoughts? If they are laughing it up at how "funny" he is, I would be having a serious chat. If they don't smarten up (and smarten him up), then he would totally be "outgrowing" my program at the end of the school year. Can you imagine doing an entire summer????

Some friends of mine have a BOYS WILL BE BOYS attitude. And it has turned their kids into BOYS WILL BE TOTAL JERKS. My two cents.... or did we decide it's a nickel now?

[lilac]

I've talked to the parents on several occasions. I dont know that he behaves to that extreme at home because hes an only child, and he doesnt have the audience (my son) at home. His dad is on top of him when he comes to the door all flipping out and crazy, but mom just laughs at him. Granparents live there and think hes cute... he is playing on the same baseball team as my son this summer. I hope that they dont behave like that but if they do at least the parents will witness it... although then my kid is also the little puke at baseball!

We spend as much time out side as we can to burn off the energy but it doesnt seem to help. We have a bit of a walk home, and that doesnt seem to help; if we stop at the park, hes so friggin loud I'm kinda embarrassed (because then I have to get loud to get their attention), walking home from school when they are all worked up and yelling is embarassing too.

Time outs dont work, he'll do his time but then go back to what he was doing; usually; sometimes he can be quiet and well behaved but not as often as loud and abnoxious. Spoke to the parents on several occasions and they have a go at him at home but it doesnt seem to change. He and my son are extra worked up this week bc of the new kids started this week, a new audience I suppose. I have a few weeks to snap them into shape before I have to endure full days over the summer with him..... uggh...

He must have been doing some sort of discipline thing at school b/c for a while when his dad came to pick him up hed ask how many stars he got today... and if he didnt get 5 (or something like that) he wanted to know why, but they never shared that with me.

I hate to terminate him (although the thought is appealing) bc this is the only family that stuck with me over my mat leave, my kids would be devestated, and his parents are very flexible and its been almost 2 years....

At least I know now that I'm not being a stick in the mud. I'll just have to be tougher on he and my son.... now before the other 2 boys decide its okay to behave that way here!

BTW-I too hate the expression boys will be boys.... for the same reasons you all have listed above. I expect my own kids (a boy and a girl) to be well behaved, and they are other than during daycare hours.

[Momof4]

Oh you poor ladies! I'm really happy my cutoff is 4 years old before JK and I don't do school runs. I do have my grandson here for his PD days which are always Friday and I have an open space Mondays & Fridays so I can help my daughter solve that problem. Every time he comes here my daycare children learn a few new words but I remind him that he can't teach those words to little babies and he stops. He's just used to using those words every day at school now with his friends unfortunately. His Mom doesn't let him use those words at home either. THAT's the secret. Good Parenting!

[littlebugsdaycare]

would not be tolerated here at all, this is why I will never do school age care. I wouldn't allow my child to talk this way and I do not tolerate it with my daycare kids. The older children are here to also set a good example to the other children and this would not be the example I would want around my newly verbal toddlers. Potty mouth is not allowed!