Why are they hiding....

[Inspired by Reggio]

I agree I would just say that daughter spilled the beans on her and clear the air - I hate the unknown as well and would plant the seed of reminder that as much notice as possible of changes to care is appreciated

[Cocoon]

To be honest, I wouldn't say or do anything. IF they want to tell me it's fine if they don't still fine. I would just put up my ad. and I will see what happens while I interview other families. She has to let you know soon anyway when her belly gets bigger You have 6 months to find a replacement if that was the case. If not you will end up having a waiting list I really wouldn't worry as you have plenty of time.

[DaycareLulu]

Remember that whatever email address you are using for Facebook, people can search for you that way. You can just copy and paste any email address in search on Facebook and any account that is attached will show up.

[playfelt]

Sine they have waited this long to say something and still aren't, I would be using the calendar and picking a date about a month after she would be due and advertising to replace the child.

My guess is she is afraid you will turf them right away and it is possible that they did mention the pregnancy in the first few interviews and immediately got turned down so they planned to keep it to themselves as long as possible. And confronting her might get you that answer.

Having dealt with several pregnant families in the last few years my gut says they will say they will stay but then change their minds at the last minute or a month or two into the leave once her strength comes back ie 6 weeks.

You would have every right to sign on a new family and then when she starts talking about it finally let on at that time that you have known all along but were waiting for her to say something and when she didn't you felt you had to protect your business so you are very sorry but that you have replaced the child with a new one and hope big sister will have fun home with mom and baby on mat leave.

[Mamma_Mia]

Remember that whatever email address you are using for Facebook, people can search for you that way. You can just copy and paste any email address in search on Facebook and any account that is attached will show up.

I don't think so....I guess depending on YOUR settings.

I was with girlfriend last week (she created a business account) and tried to add me via using the email address in the search and came up empty! I changed my settings, then she found me and once I accepted I changed my setting right back to the way they were

There is a setting under Privacy that asks - Who can look you up using the email address or phone number you provided? and you can choose a) everyone b)friends of friends c) friends
I have freinds selected on mine

[zen39]

Personally it wouldn't bother me. She has told her friends and family as she should but she is under no obligation to mention it to her employers or people who provide services to her. She still has five months to go. I don't think there is anything disrespectful about it. If she does plan on pulling her child then as long as she gives you the proper amount of time to fill the spot, then so what? Yes it is inconvenient but for now it is also her own personal business to share with whom and when she wants.

[mom-in-alberta]

At this point, depending on the relationship that you have with her, I would totally say "Oh, I hear congratulations are in order! So when's the due date? Do you know what you're having?" If she asks how you found out, tell her you had your suspicions for a while but that Little One told you.
This could be an awkward conversation, if you didn't know FOR SURE already. If I was just guessing or going by what a two year old said, there is no way I would mention it!
I think its really weird that she hasn't told you, but as was mentioned above, it's not like she HAS to. She is likely worried that you are going to be pissed off. And even if you are; you can't be cranky, since as long as she gives you proper notice, she's not technically doing anything wrong.
Let us know how this goes, ok?

[Mamma_Mia]

Personally it wouldn't bother me. She has told her friends and family as she should but she is under no obligation to mention it to her employers or people who provide services to her. She still has five months to go. I don't think there is anything disrespectful about it. If she does plan on pulling her child then as long as she gives you the proper amount of time to fill the spot, then so what? Yes it is inconvenient but for now it is also her own personal business to share with whom and when she wants.

Sorry, I don't agree with that - When you are affecting my financial situation, it IS my business.

[playfelt]

I think the point is that either way the caregiver knows and knows when she needs to advertise a space for. It is the parent that is going to lose out when she finds that her deceptiveness cost her a spot in daycare when she says oh xxxx is goign to stay 2 days a week and caregiver says sorry when I found out about the pregnancy 6 months ago I went ahead and replaced your child because you didn't tell me you would still be using the spot once your mat leave started.

[Momof4]

I agree with the last two posts, Mammamia & playfelt. You have to be informed so that you can advertise and fill your upcoming empty space. Why wouldn't this woman give you times and dates and information? It seems really selfish of her not to keep you in the loop. Weird.