And this is why I have my settings on.....

But that aside, can you write her a letter (email), stating that while you understand that she may be aprehensive about telling you--that open comunication with you is a must.....(in your own words)Leave your feelings out of it, and say that you would like to help her in any way you can with this transition...DO NOT FRIEND HER ON FACEBOOK...

That would not serve any purpose, it would only get you pissed off even more