Personally it wouldn't bother me. She has told her friends and family as she should but she is under no obligation to mention it to her employers or people who provide services to her. She still has five months to go. I don't think there is anything disrespectful about it. If she does plan on pulling her child then as long as she gives you the proper amount of time to fill the spot, then so what? Yes it is inconvenient but for now it is also her own personal business to share with whom and when she wants.
Sorry, I don't agree with that - When you are affecting my financial situation, it IS my business.
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