Sounds like you have a really close relationship with her, almost to the point of friends? I can totally understand why you are having a hard time with it. It is so hard not to become friends with our clients and its almost like a slap in the face that she will tell everyone else and not you, yet feels comfortable enough to tell you about all other aspects of her life. I'm sorry you have to go through this Maybe she really is afraid to tell you...seems really weird that she will tell you everything else and not something so important as this. I would just come right out and let her know that you know now. Is there a chance she thinks she has told you or that you would know by facebook?