Wears the same clothes very often

[Littledragon]

I realize the family doesn't have a lot of money, and he only has a few choice items of clothing. But this week, 4 days out of five, he wore the same overalls. Also, they've provided me with a car seat that is too big for him. It's for 22 pounds, he's a year old but only 19 1/2 pounds. There are a few other things I notice that I find irresponsible. I am aware that I am not the parent and to each their own, but how do you deal with it? They don't neglect him, they're pretty good parents, I just find them a little irresponsbile sometimes.

Do you say something or do you let it go? How do you deal with is?

[Bookworm]

Are you driving the child in that car seat? If so I would definitely say something to them, because if you were ever caught with the child in an inappropriate car seat YOU would be the one getting in huge trouble, not them. I would refuse to use that car seat, regardless if they have a lot of money or not, the child's safety in a car is important.

[Dreamalittledream]

I realize the family doesn't have a lot of money, and he only has a few choice items of clothing. But this week, 4 days out of five, he wore the same overalls. Also, they've provided me with a car seat that is too big for him. It's for 22 pounds, he's a year old but only 19 1/2 pounds. There are a few other things I notice that I find irresponsible. I am aware that I am not the parent and to each their own, but how do you deal with it? They don't neglect him, they're pretty good parents, I just find them a little irresponsbile sometimes.

Do you say something or do you let it go? How do you deal with is?

I totally agree that rules are rules when it comes to car seats...but the fact that he's only off the margin by 2 1/2 pounds? I personally would let this slide. And, as long as the clothes are clean...I couldn't care less if it's the exact same outfit each day...especially since we spend the day getting messy. Just my 2 cents

[ECE53]

As long as the clothes are clean I wouldn't worry......my children had favorite things they liked to wear when they were younger...and would have worn them all the time...as far as the car seat I am not sure that 2 lbs is a deal breaker.... Weight can fluctuate and scales can defer. When my children were younger we had to switch to front facing because of size not the weight requirement . Use your judgement if the harness doesn't fit him properly etc..... Then say something to them.....

[Spixie33]

The weight for the car issue to me wouldn't be a big deal. Maybe he has been weighed at the doctor's office or at home and the parents have come up with a different higher weight than what you are weighing him at. Either way I would not be worried about 2.5 pounds. I had moved my kids to forward facing or to a booster seat when they were a pound or two away from the recommended weight and felt fine doing so.
Some parents may not worry about the exact weight.

In regards to the clothes - it wouldn't bother me either (like others have said). I am sure he has more than 1 pair of pants but since no one else is there in the morning when he is getting dressed then you don't know if he is begging his mom to put on those overalls because they are his favorite. Kids go through stages where they like one pair of pants or one shirt the most

As long as the child is happy and healthy, the parents are paying and seem to be involved decent parents then it isn't anything I would ever bring up and nitpick personally. I guess it depends how strongly you feel about it though

[Skysue]

They just may have a few outfits only for daycare as there daycare stuff tends to get way more dirty! LOL

As for the car seat what other option is there, he maybe too tall for the infant seat? Sometimes hight outrules weight.

[playfelt]

As for the overalls - he may have several pairs too. When I found a sale for my son I often bought more than one. With girls you tend to get more colour choices but for boys one pair of jeans looks the same as the next. If they buy their clothes at consignment stores they may have all been hanging together and the mom just grabbed 5 pair saying ok these will be his daycare clothes. Does he wear a different tshirt every day. Depending on the job of the parents they may need to do laundry daily so what he really has is two pair and just keeps alternating them.

As long as they don't smell and yesterday's jam and the day before's spagetti sauce isn't still clinging to them I wouldn't worry.

[Sandbox Sally]

I don't think that either of those things are a big deal. At all. Just my opinion.

[Littledragon]

I don't think that either of those things are a big deal. At all. Just my opinion.

You're right it may not be a big deal, but it could also be a sign of neglect. He's wearing the same clothes over and over, and I KNOW they're not washing them. They put him a front facing car seat that is too big for him, the straps dont tighten to his body....signs. There are also other signs that make me questions whether or not he is being treated as a baby should. His parents come off as selfish to me and I don't know how they are with him at home. I was actually suspecting neglect at the time that I wrote this, that is basically why I asked. I'm not a snot who thinks kids shouldnt wear the same things over and over, it's the way they come off.

Anyways, not a big deal now. I doubt anyone will even read this bc i wrote it in may lol but Reggio, you're right. And I ended up talking to them about it. That seat was ULTRA unsafe and he shouldnt have been in it!

[Inspired by Reggio]

....Anyways, not a big deal now. I doubt anyone will even read this bc i wrote it in may lol but Reggio, you're right. And I ended up talking to them about it. That seat was ULTRA unsafe and he shouldnt have been in it!

LMAO ~ damn fell victim to a spammer bumping an old thread ~ did not notice this was from May and likely long resolved issue now ... cia la vie glad to hear that you spoke up and told them not to have him in the carseat ... I really am a anal cow about them I actually had to refuse a dad leaving with his child once because he showed up and he was 'last' that day so I had walked out to the car talking to home and while we were talking and he was putting his child in the car I noticed that the seat had no tether on it and she was 'forward facing' in it now and too big to 'rear face' based on the seat instructions ... he had to leave her here and the mom had to come get her with her car seat cause I could not in good conscious allow them off my property with the seat the way it was.

Had another client just this year who had moved both her children to 'highback boosters' cause they were 40 pounds 40 inches (barely) but she wanted them in the easier seat ~ however the one day at pick up I was helping her in cause they were last and noticed the neither of the kids seat belts 'locked' in place which is a requirement for a high back ~ the shoulder belt has to be able to be pulled tight and LOCK so the child cannot move or turn in the seat otherwise they can loosen the belt and fly out of it ... now that mom I let 'leave' cause she lives around the block but I told her to go and get a metal locking clip from Canadian Tire ~ cost like $5 max to lock the belts in place once they are in easy safe fix ~ she shows up the next day with a brand new car with belts that lock cause apparently she went home and told her spouse her car was not safe for the kids and neglected to share the $5 fix option

However seat belts and car seats only WORK if they are installed and used properly as per the manufacturers instructions ~ used improperly they can cause injury

Most adults do not properly wear their belts either sadly!