Wears the same clothes very often

[Inspired by Reggio]

The clothes would not bug me in the least.

However I could not let the inappropriate seat slide ~ having taking the carseat installation training to do inspections and installations for others the images of children in 'improper seats' haunts me! The fact that we once had 'no' regulations for seat belts and people survived is just silly ~ once upon a time there were MINIMAL cars on the road cause it was a 'luxury' to own one ~ now not only has our populations soared but not only is it the norm for every household to have ONE car but most have MULTIPLE cars that are now on the road .... we drive more, we travel faster, as a society 95% of us seem to drive distracted and the fact remains that statistically there are just MORE ACCIDENTS that require more safety precautions to help prevent death and injury .... but if we are not going to USE those precautions properly than they are useless!

The weights and heights or ages given are minimum safety standards to take into account when choosing which seat is best for your child. Before changing to a new seat you should be OVER that weight requirements for that seat before moving to it not just 'sneaking up on it' so that if you poop or something your back under it again ~ at his weight of less than 20 pounds he should still be rear facing in a seat that accommodates rear facing .... 22 pounds, over a year old and walking independently are all requirements for forward facing in Canada. I regards to accidents causing injury the rear facing is the safest position to be in and ideally they should be doing so as long as the seat allows so ~ some seats can rear face to 35 or 40 pounds...the longer you can give a child's spine and muscles to develop strength the better. It is better to break a leg because it is bent in the rear seat than snap a neck in an accident and be dead or paralyzed for life!

So if they have switched him to a forward facing seat for an over 22 pound child and he is not meeting all those requirements than yes YOU risk the fine if your pulled over but worse if you are in an accident and he is injured and medical treatment show his weight and size was not appropriate for the seat you had him in your now liable cause they will be doing the assumption that 'had he been in the proper seat he may not have sustained these injury' thing

IMO we already take a huge liability risk transporting children in our program because we cannot control other drivers on the road ~ taking a further one by not having them in the correct seat while doing so is just not worth it!

[Littledragon]

I don't think that either of those things are a big deal. At all. Just my opinion.

You're right it may not be a big deal, but it could also be a sign of neglect. He's wearing the same clothes over and over, and I KNOW they're not washing them. They put him a front facing car seat that is too big for him, the straps dont tighten to his body....signs. There are also other signs that make me questions whether or not he is being treated as a baby should. His parents come off as selfish to me and I don't know how they are with him at home. I was actually suspecting neglect at the time that I wrote this, that is basically why I asked. I'm not a snot who thinks kids shouldnt wear the same things over and over, it's the way they come off.

Anyways, not a big deal now. I doubt anyone will even read this bc i wrote it in may lol but Reggio, you're right. And I ended up talking to them about it. That seat was ULTRA unsafe and he shouldnt have been in it!

[Inspired by Reggio]

....Anyways, not a big deal now. I doubt anyone will even read this bc i wrote it in may lol but Reggio, you're right. And I ended up talking to them about it. That seat was ULTRA unsafe and he shouldnt have been in it!

LMAO ~ damn fell victim to a spammer bumping an old thread ~ did not notice this was from May and likely long resolved issue now ... cia la vie glad to hear that you spoke up and told them not to have him in the carseat ... I really am a anal cow about them I actually had to refuse a dad leaving with his child once because he showed up and he was 'last' that day so I had walked out to the car talking to home and while we were talking and he was putting his child in the car I noticed that the seat had no tether on it and she was 'forward facing' in it now and too big to 'rear face' based on the seat instructions ... he had to leave her here and the mom had to come get her with her car seat cause I could not in good conscious allow them off my property with the seat the way it was.

Had another client just this year who had moved both her children to 'highback boosters' cause they were 40 pounds 40 inches (barely) but she wanted them in the easier seat ~ however the one day at pick up I was helping her in cause they were last and noticed the neither of the kids seat belts 'locked' in place which is a requirement for a high back ~ the shoulder belt has to be able to be pulled tight and LOCK so the child cannot move or turn in the seat otherwise they can loosen the belt and fly out of it ... now that mom I let 'leave' cause she lives around the block but I told her to go and get a metal locking clip from Canadian Tire ~ cost like $5 max to lock the belts in place once they are in easy safe fix ~ she shows up the next day with a brand new car with belts that lock cause apparently she went home and told her spouse her car was not safe for the kids and neglected to share the $5 fix option

However seat belts and car seats only WORK if they are installed and used properly as per the manufacturers instructions ~ used improperly they can cause injury

Most adults do not properly wear their belts either sadly!

[Littledragon]

I hear you reggio! I blow my mind the amount of people who don't take the proper precautions when dealing with THEIR KIDS LIVES. Do they not realize that this a life or death thing? My son was rear facing till he was a year old AND over 22 pounds and we bought a car seat where the bottom buckle comes up to his waist and the chest buckle is SNUG against his chest - ALWAYS. There's a little crank you can turn to tighten the belt. I picked up my cousin at the airport and she put her son in the seat and I told her to crank it to tighten it and she was like - oh, it's good enough. NO!!! I tightened it TIGHT. My sister in law used to only buckle the chest one, and leave the bottom one. She was like - we're only going 2 km. WHAT?! I couldn't believe it! And then, this little boy. I HAD to put him front facing because I HAD to use the shoulder belt because his buckles were too lose. I used his buckles AND the seat belt and locked it. But still, he would be leaning over when I got there. My son can't even move an inch side to side in his seat. After that, i told them they were going to have to provide a new seat. One of our "agreements" for taking this little one early (before I offically opened my daycare) was that i be able to carry one with daily life, and that meant mommy and me, swimming, library and so on. They huffed and puffed but eventually agreed. I felt for them because I know they didn't have a lot of money, but their kid needed to be safe! There's so if and or buts about it. I don't understand how people can risk their children's well-being bc of money and/or convenience. I just don't understand it.

[kidlove]

Maybe I dont deal with it correctly, but I believe in subtle hints. (my mom says I do too much) if I notice a child only has a few pair of pants and parents arent providing as well as they should, I go to the second hand store and pik some up for them. some kids come dressed inappropriately for the weather, so i dig into my extras and dress them well, do get those back at end of day though. i have come to realize that some people are just dif from me. doesnt change how i feel though, although you should allow some leeway for these "different" people, I do think if it bothers you or is effecting the child in any way. Do something subtle. I have had a mommy not bathe her child enough, (she was a stinker of a kid) gave hermom a hard time after work, instead of giving her child pos attn and proper care, she was tired and didnt want to deal so put her to bed with out bath. I would bathe her SOMETOMES, she would tell me her bottom hurt, I couldnt let her go all day with sore butt.....but I would tell her mom at pik up too. the mother appoligized and said, "had a tough night last night. happened alot!!!!!
I think its a sign of "LAZY PARENTING" although they love their kids alot, they just dont seem to care as much as most. drives me crazy.

[Sandbox Sally]

I don't think that someone using a seat intended for a child 2 lbs heavier is "risking their child's life". I think recent changes in carseat laws are excessive and extreme. Again, just my .02.

[Littledragon]

I don't think that someone using a seat intended for a child 2 lbs heavier is "risking their child's life". I think recent changes in carseat laws are excessive and extreme. Again, just my .02.

I agree. It wasn't the weight, it was the way the child seat fit. This little boy was 18 or 19 pounds at the time but he's SUPER tall. He;'s REALLY skinny and his harnesses didn't tighten to fit him. It's not a car seat you can use from 5-30 pounds or whatever, it's a car seat where you have to be 22 pounds to start, so his harnesses didn't fit. When I drive, within minutes, he would slumped to the side. I don't think you should be able to move in a car seat. It just worried me. If i got into a car accident, he definitely would not have been safe.

[Lou]

I'm a carseat snob here, and I rear face my own AND my daycare kids until they are at LEAST 2 yrs old. And to avoid the issue of carseats I invested in a few of my own so I can have control over this issue. Glad you spoke to them about it!