I hear you reggio! I blow my mind the amount of people who don't take the proper precautions when dealing with THEIR KIDS LIVES. Do they not realize that this a life or death thing? My son was rear facing till he was a year old AND over 22 pounds and we bought a car seat where the bottom buckle comes up to his waist and the chest buckle is SNUG against his chest - ALWAYS. There's a little crank you can turn to tighten the belt. I picked up my cousin at the airport and she put her son in the seat and I told her to crank it to tighten it and she was like - oh, it's good enough. NO!!! I tightened it TIGHT. My sister in law used to only buckle the chest one, and leave the bottom one. She was like - we're only going 2 km. WHAT?! I couldn't believe it! And then, this little boy. I HAD to put him front facing because I HAD to use the shoulder belt because his buckles were too lose. I used his buckles AND the seat belt and locked it. But still, he would be leaning over when I got there. My son can't even move an inch side to side in his seat. After that, i told them they were going to have to provide a new seat. One of our "agreements" for taking this little one early (before I offically opened my daycare) was that i be able to carry one with daily life, and that meant mommy and me, swimming, library and so on. They huffed and puffed but eventually agreed. I felt for them because I know they didn't have a lot of money, but their kid needed to be safe! There's so if and or buts about it. I don't understand how people can risk their children's well-being bc of money and/or convenience. I just don't understand it.