I agree, tell her now! Why do we have contracts if we're not willing to enforce them?

It's like with our kids.... when we give a direction we follow through to maintain a consistent direction. If it's something minor... like... taking their socks off for example. Do we give the direction and then back down and let them do what they want? Or do we simply take the socks, put them away until outside time and let it go? We have to pick our battles and I think we have to remember when we write our contracts it's our responsibility to uphold them.