Thanks ladies. I do feel a lot better, just hearing your advice. I got an email last night for a possible interview, have yet to hear back but I'm hopeful! Once they start, I will be writing a letter to mom stating, these are reasons I want to terminate HOWEVER, seeing as how it was COMPLETELY unfair for your son to suffer by being taken out of a home he in comfortable in, transitioning him to a new home for only a few short months, I have decided to keep him PROVIDING you do this this and this. I am just tired of FIGHTING them, if it's not one thing, it's another. I mean, grow up! Take responsibility of your child and do what is asked of you. From now on, I'm cutting out the friendly chit chat - she usually comes in for about 20 minutes and watches the boys play before she makedsthe 15 minute walk home. But from now on, I'm meeting her at the door with his things ready. I'm not going to be rude about it, but I need them to know we're not friends, and this is a business. I also need to distance myself so I can be more firm.
Lucky for her, i didn't see her changing his diaper until last second, otherwise...well, I have no idea what I would have done. I probably would have just sat there with my mouth hanging out. My husband was MAD. lol it's a new couch. We don't hang out in the livingroom very often, so this couch is pretty much just barely used. What if her kid had peed?! My son does it ALL the time lol oohhhh why I otta.....

Thanks ladies. For now, I have my sanity. Keep your fingers crossed that I head back from the family that emailed me last night.