Quote Originally Posted by mlac57 View Post
....My now ex-client advised me that she had heard them from another provider but would not advise whom she had heard it from because in her opinion it didn't matter ....
Personally I would also be wary of this 'ex client' because if she is going to share something negative like that under the guise of HELPING you than she needs to be willing to STAND BEHIND what she has said ... IMO you do not get to drop a bomb like that and than play the 'oh I do not want to tell you WHO said it cause that is not important I just wanted you to know 'someone' is talking smack about you' or you do not get to do the 'oh do not bring my name into it' .... that is NOT helpful and actually HURTFUL behavior creating drama and stress like that in someone's life for no reason - IMO better to live in blissful ignorance if there is nothing you can do to 'change' things than stew about who it is and why an so forth ... if she is not willing to give you the information needed to DO something about it than IMO if she truly CARED about you she would have kept the information to herself and told the provider who was talking SMACK about you that perhaps if she feels that way she could organize a 'meet and greet' to set the record straight because that is not HER experience with you! If this were my 'friend' or ex-client to be honest I would CALL them on their behavior so that they know for next time - keep your gossip to yourself cause it is neither helpful nor appreciated!

I have no patience for people who gossip monger and spread rumors just for the sake of creating drama and stress for others and they will not 'stand behind' what they have said - people like that I tend to cut out of my life entirely or if I cannot I take anything they say with a grain of salt because IMO if you are not willing to stand up behind what you have said to someone, specially when it is negative, than they are coward and likely are 'embellishing' things to make themselves look better or what not .... life is too short to have negative people like that in your life!

BTW - I have been in a similar situation - someone told me that someone had told them something untrue about my professional conduct - and I called the provider on it and told her we needed to have a meeting between that person she said told her these things, herself and myself to straighten it out because it was not true and if the person HAD said it it was liable, it was code of conduct unbecoming an Early Childhood Educator according to our Code of Ethics and it was a breach of the employer/employee confidentiality as well - ironically she did not WANT to do that and got all agitated and basically threatened that I had more to loose if I told the person she had said that than she did because than I would be breaking a 'confidence' of hers - however she was not entitled to 'confidence' from me under the circumstances

Anyway this is my point about karma ... I heard through the grapevine that that provider is no longer in business .... my guess because the negative energy and behavior she exhibited was not conducive to creating a thriving home childcare business and her behavior towards others came back to bite her in the ass cause clients start to figure out if you gossip about 'others' than you gossip about THEM too .... focus on being professional and passionate about your own business and it will thrive and let the others chips fall where they may