Provider feedback about your child

[Sarah]

Why on earth would parents want to know their child's everyday BM???

Please help me understand! I mean if their child is sick, I understand, but why would you need or even want to know about BM for a healthy kid. Please enlighten me

[Skysue]

It is so important to know this! Maybe not a big deal for an older child but for an infant they can get constipated very easily due to diet, i.e. formula or food too high in iron. Also if there BM is too acidic it could mean a tooth coming in, or runny in general could mean a viral infection or reaction to food.

Even color has a lot to do with overall health.

If a daycare provider has a child for a few days and they don’t have a B.M and the same goes for the parent how are you to know that they are backed up?

It also helps the parent know if they are to expect one that evening. My little one had this in daycare and her reports said she didn’t go for 2 days that night I FED HER PRUNES and she had instant relief.

I’m just a bit shocked that you had to ask!

Why on earth would parents want to know their child's everyday BM???

Please help me understand! I mean if their child is sick, I understand, but why would you need or even want to know about BM for a healthy kid. Please enlighten me

[Sarah]

It is so important to know this! Maybe not a big deal for an older child but for an infant they can get constipated very easily due to diet, i.e. formula or food too high in iron. Also if there BM is too acidic it could mean a tooth coming in, or runny in general could mean a viral infection or reaction to food.

Even color has a lot to do with overall health.

If a daycare provider has a child for a few days and they don’t have a B.M and the same goes for the parent how are you to know that they are backed up?

It also helps the parent know if they are to expect one that evening. My little one had this in daycare and her reports said she didn’t go for 2 days that night I FED HER PRUNES and she had instant relief.

I’m just a bit shocked that you had to ask!

I like your explanation, but I am not like you! As a provider, if parents ask, I will tell them of course, but as a parent, I never asked. And never thought it was usefull.

By the way, maybe it was not too clear, but my asking was a bit ironic. I know why parents ask, but I don't understand why they would feel the need to ask.

I would expect the provider to let me know if she notices a different texture or color in the BM, or an absence of BM for a longer period than usual, as well as I would let her know as a parent. This way, together we can avoid problems. But letting me know everyday that there was a BM, what do I care?

And why would I want to know that there will be a BM at home? I have diapers, wipes, a nose to smell it when it comes, and if I go out, I will bring everything with me! Wow, that is planning too much to need to know if there might be a BM!

Anyway, it's just my opinion! I don't really mind if people need to know, I just don't get that they need to know THAT much!

To me, it's making natural body work, unnatural!

[Skysue]

Not sure what you mean by natural body work, unnatural?


At the end of the day most of my daycare kids get picked up at the same time so I don't have time to disscuss things with parents in great detail.

Anyway it's important!

I like your explanation, but I am not like you! As a provider, if parents ask, I will tell them of course, but as a parent, I never asked. And never thought it was usefull.

By the way, maybe it was not too clear, but my asking was a bit ironic. I know why parents ask, but I don't understand why they would feel the need to ask.

I would expect the provider to let me know if she notices a different texture or color in the BM, or an absence of BM for a longer period than usual, as well as I would let her know as a parent. This way, together we can avoid problems. But letting me know everyday that there was a BM, what do I care?

And why would I want to know that there will be a BM at home? I have diapers, wipes, a nose to smell it when it comes, and if I go out, I will bring everything with me! Wow, that is planning too much to need to know if there might be a BM!

Anyway, it's just my opinion! I don't really mind if people need to know, I just don't get that they need to know THAT much!

To me, it's making natural body work, unnatural!

[Sarah]

Not sure what you mean by natural body work, unnatural?

Anyway it's important!

Sorry, english is not really my first language so sometimes it's hard to say exactly what I mean.

So what I meant was that a BM is a natural thing, that parents don't need to know about, unless there is a problem with it. I agree with the impotancee of the BM, but only when there is an actual problem. Just requiring this information as part as a daily recap is giving it a "medical" importance. Do you analyze your own BM every time you go? I don't think so!!! You will analyze only if something feels wrong about it.

Anyway, hope I am clear!

[Spixie33]

Why on earth would parents want to know their child's everyday BM???

Please help me understand! I mean if their child is sick, I understand, but why would you need or even want to know about BM for a healthy kid. Please enlighten me

As a parent who used daycare before -- I used to want to know for peace of mind that the plumbing was working as it should and also that my child was being changed regularly

Imagine if your child usually has a regular BM every afternoon after nap. It is Friday where you pick your child up from daycare. On Saturday you notice his stomach is swollen and hard and he hasn't pooped and he seems quite uncomfy. Wouldn't you then go back and consult your daycare sheet and see did the child poop Friday at daycare or his he now 2 days constipated and in pain?? It is little things like that.

or you pick your child up and he seems to be pooping every hour on the hour - you would check to see whether the same trend happened during the day and whether maybe they had a virus or something they ate affecting them.

It is always good to have as much info as possible because what if you have to go to urgent care at night and the doctor asks about your child's day and what they ate or what their diapers were for the day and you have to say "I don't know - they were at daycare". Eeks

I guess to parents - it is just good to have in case of issues and peace of mind

I tell parents about diapers as a daycare provider for those reasons. I know that I used to want to know. I have had parents walk in the door....check the sheet and see if their child had a BM yet or whether to expect one since they were going shopping etc.

[mom-in-alberta]

As a provider, I certainly do not discuss poop on a daily basis with mom and dad. I'm sort of with Sarah, as a parent, too. If there is something out of the ordinary (more or less than usual, child seemed to have difficulty having the BM, etc), then yes I would want to know. Otherwise, not really something I need the little details on. I will tell parents if something seems up, but we don't really talk about it regularly.
When it comes to whether or not to expect a stink-o diaper... if they go, they go.

[Skysue]

I think there is confusion to this question. I don't write details on my daily reports on the size, colour and texture? I just right if they go or don't go? Her question was more on the importance of knowing. As a parent it's important! Someone help me out here!

As a provider, I certainly do not discuss poop on a daily basis with mom and dad. I'm sort of with Sarah, as a parent, too. If there is something out of the ordinary (more or less than usual, child seemed to have difficulty having the BM, etc), then yes I would want to know. Otherwise, not really something I need the little details on. I will tell parents if something seems up, but we don't really talk about it regularly.
When it comes to whether or not to expect a stink-o diaper... if they go, they go.

[Sandbox Sally]

I am asked by every parent whether their kid had a poop - every day. I would also ask a provider if my baby or toddler was away from me all day. Output is just as important as input.

[Katskids]

I only have 2 sets of parents and I spend a few minutes at pick up time discussing the day. This is sometimes my only adult conversation during the day so I quite enjoy chatting! I'll happily discuss food, poop etc., but I think the parents just want to be re-assured that their children are well taken care of and had a great day!