Starting a Day Home and looking to build the right foundation with new child

[Inspired by Reggio]

IME children in 'care' often behave much better for us than they do in other social settings ... I have a little dude whom I know his family in a 'social manner' as well who at home, relatives and school is a totally different child than in my daycare program .... here my rules are simple but consistent ... you respect yourself - you keep safe, you respect others - keep them safe, you respect our environment - keep it safe .... so every choice they make is brought back to those two questions ... is that 'respectful' and 'is that safe' .... you do not climb on furniture because that is not respectful you could break it - it is not safe because you could break it ... and so forth.

When kids are new IME it is about being consistent each and every time they take a misstep being there to remind them - 'at Godsgirl's house we do X' so that they learn the rules and expectations and consequences for poor choices!

Also remember that this is YOUR house and business ... during arrival and pick up is a stressful time for kids and often that time where many behaviors tend to 'pop up' for some kids so if parents are not QUICK to stop inappropriate behavior, ideally BEFORE it happens, I will step in and redirect and deal with their behavior - because while the parent is here it is still my home and I am not going to allow a child's behavior during that time to cause something to get broken nor do I want the other children in my program to think that during times when other adults are here it is 'free for all' to behave like little weenies cause they think I will not step in - WRONG

I guide and manage behavior the same no matter WHO is here and they know that so as a result (with the exception on one family who is on the countdown to leaving) all my kids behave awesome during arrival and departure and the one family often gets firmly told to just pick up your child and GO with the kid kicking and screaming because I will not have behavior like that in my home being role modeled to others specially since your kid is in school now and knows better and is playing you