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    I also do not allow outside food for the allergy reason that others have said. Also, because I pride myself on making all home made foods and not serving processed foods, I wouldn't want to be feeding all my kids shephards pie for example and have one child having beans and chicken nuggets. While its the parents choice, it really puts the lunchtime routine at risk of becoming problematic if other kids suddenly decide to not eat the food provided because they are used to eating convenience foods at home and would prefer what the other child was being sent with.

    I would always reinforce to the parents that their child will eat when they are hungry while letting them know there is always a settling in period and adjustment to a new setting and new meals and that you have never had a problem with children eating the meals you provide. I'd go on to say that the kids usually model each other and eat well as a group. Also, why not ask the parents outright why they send the food. If it really is because they fear their child won't eat what you feed them, why not ask them to give you the chance to try your food with them as it will teach them much better eating habits and make them more compliant and willing to try new things through adolesance. Maybe ask them to tell you some of their childs favourite meals so you can include them in your menu plan. If they are not meals you would serve your daycare children, then maybe you can come up with healthier versions. Its not that theirs a problem with the child, more just a way to reassure the parents that their child will settle in quickly to your meal plan as others have. I find the issue is typically with the parent's anxiety and fears when sending a child to daycare rather than with the child themselves. The kiddies are usually adaptable if you can be consistant and not give in to their power struggles when they try to refuse foods to get favourite snacks instead because that usually works at home with their parents.

    This being said, some people don't see this situation as a problem so if you do not mind serving the food the parents send, and theres no issue with the other children not eating their meals as they want the other childs food, then I'd take full advantage of having less expense to pay out for these two children.

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    Quote Originally Posted by akpayne View Post
    Momof4 i serve very healthy choices as well so I dont believe that is the problem. i am very open and communicate with all my families. i dont feel this is something i have done.
    Oh, I definitely didn't mean to say that you are doing anything wrong. We all run our daycares a little bit differently and allow some things that the next caregiver would not allow. I had a child in care with nut allergies and right now I have a lactose intolerant baby so those parents did send in the specialty foods. But I wouldn't like to have outside food sent in and I'll explain why.

    When I started daycare I didn't have a clue what I was doing but I started with babies and the parents were sending in all the infant food and bottles. Then as the children grew and started eating table food one by one the parents started sending breakfast, lunch and snack in lunchboxes. However, there was no room in my fridge for any food for me once I got all five children's food into my fridge every morning.

    Another issue was that each child wanted something the other children were eating and it became an incredible pain. So I stopped all that and started feeding the children and raised my rates. The bottom line is that all of these decision were made by ME as I learned to become a businesswoman. Now all of the families know that I make the rules and they must follow them.

    Whatever you decide to do about this situation, make sure it is what YOU want to happen in your daycare because YOU are the boss and the business owner and make the rules, ok?

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    If they send it why not serve it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skysue View Post
    If they send it why not serve it?
    Bottom line for me I have a preference of no outside food for 3 reasons

    1) Liability - I have allergens of my own and others in care some who are life threatening I do not want anyone else bring something into my home unnecessarily - so unless it is a medical reason and I cannot 'accommodate' it myself I provide ALL solid foods for children and I make all my own baby food from scratch ... parents only supply formula or specialty dairy replacements. Anyone sending meals from home has to sign a form stating that what they send will not contain XYZ if it is homemade or it has to be store bought so I can read the label and if it is not appropriate or is a risk - it does not get served!

    2) Control - I prefer to supply and make my own infant foods A) because of above - I need to be able to 'test' that it is not too hot, has not spoiled and so forth before tasting it and best way is to taste it and well jarred food would make me sick cause it is full of gluten fillers and I would not 'trust' that others ensured no cross contamination in preparing food from home and B) I prefer to be able to 'support' a child's transition to solid table foods smoothly within the program and do not want to deal with someone still thinking it is necessary to feed an 18 month old 'jarred foods' verses having them just eating what everyone else is eat ... which sadly is often the case in many homes and why they make those 'toddler foods' cause there is the demand for them as more and more people buy them cause it is just 'easier' and well by 12 months my crew is at least 95% on full table foods and all eating the same things - only a few things I still puree for them rest is just 'chopped' into bite size finger food pickings.

    3) Conflict avoidance ... I do not want to have to deal with clients who think that 'junk foods' are an acceptable option for kids as a STAPLE in their diet and therefore they send it everyday ... in centre care we had to deal with clients who sent chocolate milk everyday and the other kids complaining why can they not have it, kids who had a chocolate bar EVERYDAY in their lunch or whose lunch was 'fruit loops and a fruit to go bar' ... and because I do not like having to deal with the behavior from children that the 'grass is greener on the other side' issues and children refusing to eat their food cause Johnny got sent chicken nuggets and fries and I am serving baked chicken with sweet potatoes instead!

    So if there is a medical NEED for the parent to send the food I would learn to 'manage' those above issues and the conflict with the children however I do not wish to invite it into my program unnecessarily

    The reality is there is no NEED for a client to send food from home because their child's options here FAR exceed the Canada Food Guide and I serve food at least every three hours - if they did not 'like' morning snack or lunch or what not there is another option that they likely will like 3 hours a way and even if they do not like it they will be more likely to EAT something at that next option because they are getting hungry enough to realize sometimes we need to eat things because we NEED food than because we LIKE it

    As a result they get a healthier palette of foods they are willing to accept and they learn to LIKE more foods and I am working to ensure we are instilling healthy eating habits when they are young and their brains and well habits are being formed which is my nutritional philosophy.
    Children construct their own intelligence. The adult must provide activities and context, but most of all must be able to listen. Children need proof that adults believe in them. Their three great desires are to be listened to, to understand, and to demonstrate that they are exactly what we expect."
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    I retract my first answer. I would refuse as well. I wasn't really thinking about the allergy thing, which is odd because I have a severe peanut allergy in my family. I guess I'm used to the "peanut free" for schools.

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    Personally, I would not serve the food. It sends messages to the kid that they are not expected to get along with what the group is doing or eating etc. Daycare is group care and that means everyone does the same thing, eats the same thing as the group each day.

    Besides, it is a pain to have to get separate foods out and then explain to others why they can't have some. And then there is the fact that you don't personally know what is IN that food brought from home. If another child develops an allergy because they swiped some of their friend's food then that is an issue too.

    Just say NO.

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    Some parents just feel bad/uneasy about providers making food. I provide all food and beverages but one of my moms feels so bad about it and feels it is silly that I should provide milk/juices/choco milk etc and will send her child every day with two full sippy cups and says it is to 'make things a little easier' on me. I tried to protest the first day or two but gave up. I know she means well.

    I have another daycare child who EATS A LOT. Seriously - A LOT. Her mom often asks if she should send food and says she feels bad because she knows her child has a big appetite and that she would be happy to send food or pay extra a day. I declined but it was nice of her and she brings it up every couple of months.

    Personally....(when I was a daycare parent) I sent the food and snacks for my children and the drinks. I still paid the regular fees. However.....my children are on a no pork diet and my husband did not feel that we could rely on someone to check labels or meals carefully to avoid pork since it wasn't an allergy but a restriction that he wanted enforced. None of our daycare providers minded since we still paid the same.

    Eventually my son was also diagnosed with soy and dairy allergies so it became even more complicated to expect a provider to serve food and check labels so we just were relieved to send everything that he needed. It was also GREAT because the provider sent back the containers as is and we could see how much each of our children ate or not. As a parent - I liked knowing how much he ate etc

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    Not any of my dcParents do this but I know a few providers who the parents like to help out and send over a Sheppards pie or Chicken pot pie for EVERYONE to eat. If that was the case, and all the other parents sign something saying that they are ok with this, then I would do it too.

    But for soneone to send over food for a 12mos+ child and only for that one child - no I would not allow it. I'd just say at drop off ___ oh you can take the food back with you, we ALL eat the same thing together. You're welcome to bring enough for everyone if you'd like next time
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